Comments on: Why am I still single?

By: Aphrodite

Aphrodite — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 00:09:30 +0000

Okay I must say that this post was intriguing.
I am 26 years old and been single for too damn long, haha!
I’ve only been with 2 relationships and I do agree that my standards are way too high.

By: Kamael

Kamael — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 02:20:37 +0000

This is a great post. The two high standards is a tough one. I don’t think it is about “lowering your standards” so much as it is about picking the deal breakers. For me a deal breaker is lack of passion around what he does. Height is nice to have, but once I made the list of dealbreakers and the guy passes that test, I height doesn’t matter! Focusing on what you can’t live without vs. what’s nice to have make a big differnce!

By: Mr. Write

Mr. Write — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 17:34:45 +0000

Oh oops, I also meant to comment on reason #3. I think that reason is totally spot on. The only exception would be if you choose to have flings just for the fun of it.

I know, I know, that sounds sleazy and immature. And sure, maybe it is. But it doesn’t have to be if you’re honest about what you’re doing and your date still agrees to seeing you. Sometimes people just want a fling. Is it holding you back from finding The One? If you’re on a timeline, then sure. But if you’re not ready to find The One yet, then a fling can be a lot of fun.

Speaking of flings, that could be a whole other post! hehe.

By: Mr. Write

Mr. Write — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 17:32:05 +0000

Good post man! I've had friends debate the idea of being too picky & having too-high standards lots of times. Some agree with you, that being too picky is why their friends are still single. Some disagree, saying that if you just "settle" for someone, you'll never really be fulfilled with them. Me, I think that part of growing up is learning to compromise and be more tolerable about all kinds of things in life. It also means, as Ms. Windowshopper said, being smarter about what you really want, vs that idealized image of that impossible person who makes $1B a year, owns property in every major city, feeds starving children in China, runs a hospital in a low-income neighborhood, and saves kittens on the weekends.