Comments on: Why I hate online dating

By: Ed

Ed — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 03:14:38 +0000

I’m not Fabio, or anything near him, but I’m also not the Humpback of Notre Dame either. The problem with online dating if you’re an average guy in his 20′s, 30′s or 40′s is there is a somewhat small pool of desirable women – attractive, without kids with them all the time (or no kids at all which is almost impossible to expect because of everyone’s belief that they have a God-given right to reproduce), and some kind of emotional stability. And then there are the leftovers who make up the majority of the pool of women. They suck guys into the black hole of dating them because these girls will give it up early and often. These women are often fat, have two kids out of wedlock living with them full time, and are emotional wrecks. The desirable women are so inundated by messages from so many guys that most guys get lost in the wash. Additionally, a lot of these women don’t really want to meet anyone in person. They just want to be showered with attention. Regardless, the desirable women are impossible to date anyway because of all the attention they receive. They believe that something better is always around the corner. You can have the best date of your life with one and never hear from her again. Then a couple of days later while you’re still wallowing in sorrow you will get a message from a leftover and, in a moment of weakness, you will end up banging her on the first damn date. The next morning you’re disgusted with yourself and you already have four texts from her saying how much she likes you and on and on. It takes a month to get rid of her because you’re the only guy in like four years that has given her any attention. And the cycle repeats itself ad infinitum until you realize how futile online dating is and you finally fucking put it down.

Online dating sucks!

By: Jodie

Jodie — Thu, 12 May 2011 12:16:57 +0000

I think you are right about the online dating thing. I tried it because I am a single mum stuck at home with my children most of the time, especially at night, not to mention that I live in a very small city. I have decided to get more proactive and move to a larger city and get a life. Also the sort of man that can handle a lady like me is not to be found on a dating site is what I am thinking now…thanks for your comments, very helpful!

By: Tina

Tina — Tue, 03 May 2011 20:01:13 +0000

I couldn’t agree more. I hate everything about online dating and it’s concept. It’s encourages fear for those that are introverted and suffer from social anxiety. It also provides an easy platform for con artists and phonies to prey on people who are vulnerable and lonely.

I’ve come to notice that the most common excuse given for those who participate in online dating is that it’s no different than offline dating as you can meet the same type of person online. But what they fail to mention is that these online dating sites charge fees — and you would have to be an idiot to pay your computer to do something that costs you nothing to do for yourself offline?

And if online dating was so great and the success rates were so high then why isn’t everyone doing it? Most of the people I know who do online dating are still single anbd looking.

By: lady

lady — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 10:52:21 +0000

Online dating sucks. I tried it because a friend of mine kept talking about these guys she met online. When it all balled down, she was not successful. I met two con artist, the guys are really rude, and only creeps approach me. That’s not nice. The same chance you have to meet creep in person, is the same on line. The down thing about the dating line, you have to pay. It’s like a lotto game or a jack pot.

By: Elle

Elle — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 01:14:47 +0000

Online dating is good for one thing: Instant rebound.

By: GG

GG — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:52:56 +0000

One of the discuragements I often feel is the ammount of scammers I’ve encountered online whether they be Nigerian, West African or Russian or other marriage-scammers; I noticed that some sites I’m using do take the issue of scam very seriously, a couple other dating-sites I know of they don’t care at all in regards to scam. it’s a matter of your own expectations too, what do you want out of online dating? There is a big difference of ‘what do you want? to what are you getting from from your online dating experience? For first timer’s they may have all sorts of expectations, low and behold they don’t materialize:-). Whilst I do have some great online friends who I do regularly correspond with in email. The issues of “personal online security” and the awareness of scams is all to important. One thing I always remember “google is your friend”. be safe, knowlege is power as they rightfully say:=).

By: CuriousGeo

CuriousGeo — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 18:48:47 +0000

Online dating ahhhh. The last paragraph is golden! Get off the computer and into the real world! Matter of fact I am turning my box off right now!

By: Mr. Write

Mr. Write — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:03:19 +0000

Although I still disagree, you’ve brought up an interesting topic: being too busy to date.

Ever go out with someone who just seems too busy? They could really be into you, but since they’re so busy, you just lose interest and wander away. That’s happened to me, on both fronts. That would be an interesting topic on which to write!

By: Zack Taylor

Zack Taylor — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 03:39:45 +0000

As I started out saying, I had some success with online dating, so I understand the value. My point is that all too often it’s an easy way out from being social, a convenience that let’s you put in a minimal amount of time and effort initially. To me, that’s no way to start a relationship. If you’re too busy to get out and meet people, then chances are that you’re work-life balance is way out of whack. I’d focus on balancing that first before introducing someone new into your life who, in all likelihood, you will be too busy to spend time with anyways.

By: Mr. Write

Mr. Write — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 21:11:30 +0000

I’ll have to go with PP on this one. I think online dating can really work out well for some people – I’ve got a bunch of friends who met online and are now married. And I’ve got a bunch of friends who’ve met creeps online and hate it.

In my opinion, it can be a good supplement for finding dates, but doesn’t necessarily need to be the main source. But ultimately, it depends on the person & their situation.

Off the top of my head, online dating is probably a nice tool for people who are: extremely busy, have maxed out their social circles, are older & divorced & unfamiliar with the dating scene, don’t like the typical dating scene, are more introverted and find it easier to open up online, or are just curious.