Why Do Girls Go For Assholes?

“I dont need a survey, research, nothing. No empirical eveidence necessary. I’ve seen it with my two eyes. Women date assholes like it’s their job.”
- Murph


It’s a mystery that confounds many men. Why do so many attractive and seemingly intelligent women go for assholes? These guys treat them poorly, disrespect them, and get away with all kinds of crap. Yet women swoon and get weak in the knees for them, time and time again.

WTF?

The answer: because while this asshole is dating the girl, he’s not an “asshole.” At least, not in the beginning. He’s charming, fun, and exciting. He makes her feel like a woman. Dating him is like a roller coaster with high peaks and thrills.

But when the ride dips, the cries come. Now he’s chauvinistic, arrogant, and selfish. He makes her feel like dirt. Now, he’s an asshole.

As a nice guy, you’re probably sitting there right now, fuming. “Will these girls every learn?” you’re wondering. “I’m a nice guy; I’d treat them well. Why don’t they like me?”

The answer: because you’re boring, passive, and uninspiring. You make her feel like an older sister. Dating you is like dating a sniveling subordinate at work who’s always kissing her ass and never exhibiting a backbone. You never have an opinion, you always want to do whatever she wants, and you don’t do anything to keep her on her toes (or make her feel swept off her feet).

“Screw that!” you’re yelling. “I totally do that! But some girls just don’t know how to appreciate me. I don’t want a girl who needs me to be an arrogant bastard around her!” Fine, then don’t. There women who don’t date assholes too. Really, there are. And they’re going to adore you.

But if you want to know the truth, it’s not assholes these girls are after. They’re after a guy who can drive them wild. Who can take charge, challenge them, and be a Man.

What does that mean exactly? It’s not about being an arrogant bastard. It’s about being assertive. If you’re what these women call a “nice guy“, that means you’re not assertive, you’re passive. Too passive for them. You’d make a great friend, but not necessarily a great boyfriend.

Assertive means making the first move. Not with arrogance, but with quiet confidence. It means calling her on her bullshit. Not with passive aggressive comments, but with respectful yet playful teasing. It means doing something bold, new, and exciting. Not taking her to a movie for the eighth date in a row (unless she’s a film buff), but flying to a foreign country and joining the Mile High Club on the flight there.

It’s not that girls want or seek out assholes. They are drawn to assertive, self-confident guys who can tantalize and charm them. It just so happens that many assholes are naturally assertive.

If you’re a “nice guy” who’s been passive all these years, man up. Be assertive. These woman could use a respectful yet assertive guy like you, after being with so many assholes. You’ll be a breath of fresh air.

Do something unpredictable. Ask her out. Take her to the Carribean, so she has to show off her hot new bikini. Plan out an entire day with her, without asking for her opinion on any of it. While you’re walking on some random street, spin her around, cradle her in your arms, and kiss her passionately.

It’s not about being an asshole. It’s about being assertive. Know that you’re a good guy, be confident in yourself, and she’ll fall for you.


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Nice post. There’s one part about being an asshole that you forgot to mention: assholes think they’re great so that if a girl doesn’t want them, they just move onto the next one. They think they’re God’s gift to women and act like it. Showing that they aren’t dependent on one woman’s love and affection makes them all that much more desirable. Sometimes they even treat the girl like crap initially, which makes him more desirable because he’s not slobbering all over her like most guys do.

Ah true, good point Z. Spoken like a guy who’s seen his fair share of assholes before.

Having dated one or two a-holes myself, I think women look at an asshole and think that their arrogance and poor behavior won’t apply to us or that we can change an asshole into a sweet caring man. It’s the same reason we date players – we think their ways will change when it comes to us – we will make them see different and be different. It takes us a while to realize that if he is an asshole to others, chances are he is going to be an asshole to us as well.

Ah, good point PP! I forgot about that reason. A few female friends have told me about trying to “be the one that changes the bad boy” before and it certainly seems like a common enough phenomenon.

oh no my friend, i’ve known girls who have advance warning of the assholish nature of the guys they date. they know b/c of his reputation. they know b/c they’ve seen/heard of his asshole behavior. how he got mad if his g/f wanted dessert. how he was constantly eyeballing other women and saying things like “nice tits” about some mother of 2 at the mall. they know, yet they continue to date them. they love being treated like poop so they can complain. its not about just being assertive. i dont kiss girls’ asses, but i’m not an asshole. by the way, i found it hysterical that i’ve been quoted. like i’m some sort of scholar.

nice to see that i’ve been quoted. makes me feel like some sort of scholar.

Yes sir, you are quite the celebrity here, murph. Thanks for the comment!

I think that women with low self-esteem cannot acccept being treated well.

You win the prize, Mr. Write.

You see, I used to be the “typical nice guy.” And yeah, I was only good enough to befriend, but never to date. But then I took the qualities that the so-called “jerks” and “assholes” had, and just mixed it all together with the “good guy” traits. And now I’m in an awesome relationship with the best girl in the world.

And it’s completely true. She’s told me herself how she likes the fact that I am random. I drive her wild, I keep her on her toes, I call her out on BS, I hold her accountable for her actions. Sure, I can be kinda mean sometimes, but she says it let’s her know that I’m human…like her.

In her last relationship, the guy she was with was so “nice” that she told me she felt like she was the man in the relationship. >_< Oy vey…

Take some charge, fellas. You’ll see results.

Wanna be non-robotic, exciting, daring, and most important, NOT an asshole? Then simply do this . . . Use your head, not your heart. Nice guys always think with their heart, try to do the nice thing, and the girl is bored. she’s also a little creeped out by the fact that you are so into her. It’s a little like Groucho Marx. “I wouldn’t want to be in a club that would have me for a member.”

Not to be crass, but act a little like you’re the guy looking into a gym membership at one club while you already have a membership to another. You’re going to really check things out, you’re going to walk around, look at the facilities. You are certainly NOT going to join instantly. You’re going to wait. After all, you’re kind of happy with your current club; you don’t need the change.

Nice guys, hear me now, this dating thing is a game, like it or not, it’s a game. Girls like to play it (at least the girls that you would be interested in). Play with your head, save your heart. Not to get cheesy, but here’s the deal. Your heart is precious, save it for the girl that’s really special – the one who has earned it. When you get the butterflies, that’s great, but don’t let them take your head soaring into the clouds, you’ll get lost up there and make bad decisions. Use your head; really try to figure out whether she’s worth it, play with her, she how she reacts.

Listen to her words. . . She’ll tell you things she doesn’t mean to, and if the red flags go up. . . walk away. She’s not going to be the one for you. Use your head not your heart, and you’ll be much better off!!!

To nice guy no more:

*high five*

Great comments Kazydi & NiceGuyNoMore!

And here’s a great quote from the movie Swingers:

“I don’t want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone’s *really* hoping makes it happen. I want you to be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy you’re not sure whether or not you like yet. You’re not sure where he’s coming from. Okay? You’re a bad man. You’re a bad man, Mikey. You’re a bad man, bad man.”

Ughhh I have to write as I am so frustrated with the Female species!!! Women have this stupid theory that their asshole men they so DESIRE is actually a nice guy. PLUZZEE give us men a break and snap into reality!!! Reality is that the so called “asshole guy” is just that an ASSHOLE!! See asshole guys make women believe that they are nice but in actuality what women refuse to see is that the “asshole men” lure women in and once they start to date then the “asshole men” turn into raging assholes that will cheat, don’t give a shit about you and make you think they care but reality is they have 3, 4 or 5 other women on the side they are sleeping with and dating while your at home thinking he is such a great guy!!

Why is it that almost all women think they must date an asshole and a super super tall guys???? Height is what it is we men can’t simply grow to your required height. Men get so frustrated with women that look mostly for height but hell we men would never ever hear the end of it if men always brought up weight issues. Women always say well weight shouldn’t matter and that is the EXACT same for HEIGHT ISSUES. Women can loose or gain weight but height is height and can’t be changed!!

Women just simply do not get it!!! Are most women just simply ignorant in the dating game? But let’s say for example there is a male named Mike who seems to be a nice sappy guy and women let him ask you out and women will throw him to the curb because in women’s mind and many other women’s minds you see Mike the sappy guy as a “nice guy” and thus you ladies will think of him as a wussy and you will turn around and get a guy that is such an asshole and keep wondering why oh why did I get rid of Mike? But the “nice guy” Mike if given the chance would be just as exciting if not way more exciting than your “asshole BF” but Mike would leave behind the asshole part . You’ll keep wondering this while your asshole boyfriend is cheating on you with his 3 other ladies while you think he really cares about you and in reality the asshole could give a rats ass about you. But oh wait Mike on the other hand is way to nice to give him a chance!!! I myself a nice guy but I am just telling the truth here and I bet most men will agree with me!!

Also women answer men this question why do most women these days really truly believe that they can honestly tell on a first date if a guy will work out or not? I think women self sabotage themselves because they go on a first date and yes there are times when people can tell on first dates that it will or wont work out but that is an extremely small percentage. But anyway most women self sabotage themselves on first dates because they think they can tell that the guy is good or not good for another date so women put on so much pressure on men that they must be so damn good, carry on such an excellent conversation on the first date or the women will be like oh well he wasn’t great on the first date so no second date for him!!! It gives the men no second chance at all!! What if the man was simply nervous and it takes him a couple dates to get into his groove?

So let’s ask a simple question. You women then never ever get nervous or have a hard time on a first date? What if it was reversed on dates and it was men that said to women “oh she didn’t have a good first date so no second date for her” I and so many other guys can guarantee you most women would be flaming PISSED, upset and we men would not here the end of it if that happened to you ladies!! There are not many men that go on a first date and have a slam dunk first date that rarely happens and most of that is played up in movies where the man on the date makes the women weak at her knees. I’m not saying that there should not be expectations on first dates there should be expectations on first dates and on. But women shouldn’t expect so much on first dates and women would get much much further in dating to give a lot of men more than one chance and would have a lot better success!!

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HA! Hahahahahahahahahahhaha so true, so true!

Look, it all comes down to instincts. Ultimately a woman is looking for a guy who exhibits dominants, aggressive, successful characteristics and who will boss them around just a tad bit so that they can feel protected and in a structured environment. I know what you’re thinking — “why can’t women just be logical and see that a nice guy will work out way better in the end for them?” well it’s not about conscious decisions my friend, it’s about subconscious decisions, I mean that’s like asking why you wouldn’t date a girl who weighs 100 pounds more than you do with bad acne and turrets syndrome just because she has a lot in common with you, shares your interests has a great career and is a multimillionaire? It’s not about conscientious, logical decisions, it’s about instincts.

To chaoscontrot,

So you are making your point for yourself that you like a guy who is an asshole, not only an asshole but a dominant asshole. Also what’s your definition of a “successful man” so in your narrow mind you think the so called “wussies” are not successful??? That’s complete BULLSHIT and you know IT!! The so called “wussies” or nice guys are probably more successful than the “asshole” guys because the “asshole” guys when they don’t get their way they throw temper tantrums and don’t grow up and thus more often get fired because the assholes don’t know how to control or can’t control there tempers and if they are cheating on their girlfriends, or wives what’s going to stop them from trying to cheat on their jobs. To me and a lot of other men that just SPELLS “LOOSER”!! The nice guy or in your mind “Wussies” are the logical ones, and make the good decisions.

Guys are not going to date a lady that’s a 100 lbs more than them because it just wouldn’t match for both and both women and men know that. But on the other hand a lady that is 20lbs or 30lbs over sure there are plenty of men that would date women like that because they know that they can loose the weight if they want. But again my point of women like shorter women say 5’3″, 5’4, 5’5″ want to date the 6′ guys is ridiculous because not only does it look stupid it simply doesn’t match.

I totally agree. I am a strong, smart, beautiful woman and I can’t help loving assholes although I have tonnes of nice guys in my life. I do need a man with a backbone and I totally agree that you can be both. The trick is finding this combo..please circulate this article..especially to the guys i have been dating.

To YUP,

Yes there are a ton of men that have the combo of both asshole and nice in them but seems that women just get the “assumption” that a nice guy is just a nice guy but in reality most are both such as me. I’m a both kind of guy nice yet a little asshole that has a backbone, stands up for himself, does what I want and when I want but at the same time I’m a thoughtful caring guy that doesn’t cheat like most of the “just assholes”. See the combo guys have this trick of both being a nice guy but yet at the same time they have the backbone, stand up for themselves blah blah blah……

Women who love assholes are assholes themselves. That’s the truth, there is no other explanation.

im also ann asshole

Ok, I understand the frustration, but guys, really, getting frustrated isn’t going to solve the problem. Relax! There are mean, nasty people everywhere male and female, and if it seems that all you do is run into these people, then maybe your looking in all the wrong places. For f*cks sakes guys, if you’re always looking in bars with no luck, STOP LOOKING IN BARS!!!

Find an interest, then look for others who are interested in the same things. When you are doing things you are interested in, you are more likely to be relaxed and approachable.

Guys, you have to remember, women are getting hit on ALL THE TIME!!! They always have their guard up because they have to . . . understanding that may help you understand why women go for assholes. Most guys think that being nice all the time works, but MOST GUYS ARE TRYING THE SAME THING.

Imagine if you will, every time you walk into a room all the people in the room start to give you cake. No matter where you go, everybody thinks you want cake. You like cake, but you will get tired of it after a while, and then you get downright sick of it, and you may even get a little mean to people who keep giving you cake . . . Then out of the blue, someone walks over and hands you pasta. . . who’s going to keep your interest, huh? More cake givers, or the one who comes at you with something different.

I’m not saying go out there and be an asshole, but what I am saying is if you come to the table and bring something different you are more likely to get noticed.

Find your something different!

If you’re totally frustrated and bitter, then quit dating for a while! Go out without the intention of trying to get dates, phone numbers, etc. Try it for a month or more. When you do meet women, stick to your plan. You’re not dating, and you’re not trying to get dates. You’re just meeting people. If you are really dedicated to it (and believe me, guys, women know, they just do), your true personality will come through, and because you are being yourself without trying to work an angle you may become more attractive.

Women hate being encumbered by your fragile ego, so getting frustrated is REALLY not good for your game.

Girls are shallow.
Assholes are usually ‘hot’, and they’re assholes because they know they can get away with it, due to their physical appearance.

I’ve seen and helped idiotic girls through so many relationships where this was the case, and I’m also unfortunate enough to have been friends with guys who were assholes.

Learn to be patient. There are definately girls out there who appreciate a nice guy, and they’re usually better people for it.

So who’s paying for these overseas dates? I would think that many of these assholes we’re discussing do not (or can’t afford to) jet set.

Your trite and predicatable argument (in some places true) is a mix of Cosmopolitan article, filled with whimsical Mills and Boon type fantasies.

Hopefully your looks do get you success with men. Because if you didn’t have them, you might be a bit screwed (or not) as you sound like a bit of bore.

So basically what you’re saying is, in order for a guy to have real potential with the woman he’s interested in, he has to naturally be confident ALREADY. In essence, without this factor, he’s basically screwed (at least if he wants to be taken seriously as consideration by this woman). This also seems to imply that, if he’s not naturally confident (which all assholes are), and if he’s not (by nature) already assertive (again, as all assholes are), then he probably doesn’t stand a chance with the woman he’s interested in, is this correct? Well, to be perfectly honest, I’ll take a woman with actual substance, who doesn’t need to get a man by having them gawk and drool over her body. Sure, looks do matter to SOME extent, but it’s WHO she is that really matters at the end of the day. Just think, if her beloved “Captain Confidence” is in a car wreck and becomes paralyzed, then his TRAIT (by-product) of confidence (“assertiveness”) will more than likely not be there nearly as much as it once was. What happens then, does she just up and walk away? I’m thinkin’ so, because now he can no longer take her on that screwed up roller-coaster ride, so now she’ll have to pursue the next asshole that comes along (OOPS I mean, the next assertive, confident man). Forget that he might rape her, mentally and physically abuse her, and have her in fear for her life, he’s assertive – that’s what matters. All I can say to these women is “good luck in ‘changing’ him – they WILL NOT succeed (and even if they should actually succeed in changing him, he will then become just another boring guy friend, and they just CAN’T have that)”. As therapy (which WILL be needed as a result of these poor choices), I highly recommend becoming skilled in the art of basket weaving. Why? Well, who better to learn basket weaving than someone who is on the fast road to becoming a certified basket case? Oh well, it’s her life right? Happy suffering…

It’s simple. Immature girls are attracted to immature boys. Once they get past college most women have outgrown the jerks and have the experience to know it only ends badly with them. By then they’re ready for real honest-to-god mature MEN.

“Nice guys” are typically very mature for their age. As a result they will have little to no success with the immature girls they find around them. This gap steadily decreases until it disappears for most people (some people NEVER grow up) between about age 25 and 30. Of course there are also girls who are mature for their age and they love nice mature guys.

Also since “nice guys” are mature they typically want a more serious relationship. Immature girls don’t get that. They think the guy is boring because all they understand at their maturity level is “hot”, “sexy”, “popular”. At the same time those girls will often want to be friends with “nice guys” because even though they don’t “get it” yet, they do have some sense that they can rely on a real man for emotional support, which is why they come crying to you about the assholes they’re dating.

Trust me, I was a mature youth and saw this time and again. Thankfully I was lucky enough to meet a few girls who were equally mature and we totally hit it off. Otherwise I would have probably thought there was something very wrong with me.

Now as an adult, oh how the tables have turned! I notice that assholes have to work exceptionally hard to get an adult woman to even talk to them let alone go on a date. If they’re smart they’re trying to figure out how to be nice guys themselves. Meanwhile genuinely mature men enjoy the luxury of having to choose which of any number of truly great women they want a relationship with and those women approach the man, not the other way around. That’s another benefit with mature women, they’re more confident, know what’s real and aren’t afraid to seek it out.

DJ’s last comment put forward the truth in a nutshell.

Used to always wonder why I couldn’t see this nice friend of mine as boyfriend material.
Now I see why; because he agrees with me so much I really can’t find much to talk about.

It’s not about the looks, honestly, though it does help, but seriously, it’s nice to have an argument once in a while.

Nice post.

Since when did being a dangerous, irrational thug become the same as being assertive? Women are insane today. They call the future Microsoft CEO a pansy, yet can’t run to the dirty, drunken future convict fast enough!

angry joe’s comment hit the nail on the head. These younger women become wierder and wierder because for some messed up reason they do see these irrational thugs or dirty, drunken future convicts as “assertive” but they refuse to listen to people that they are loosers. It’s so strange that even now days even educated women are going for these loosers and you see this on the news a lot. It’s like to some of these women a murderer/thug is so cool and yet they still think oh thoses murderers/thugs can change.

But I really think it comes down to how these women were raised which I think they themselves came from broken families, one of their parents might have been in prison, or something horrible happened in thier family and most likely they didn’t have a father figure in their lives and they think this type of guy is so exciting and don’t actually realize or want to realize that this dirtbag looser is simply a looser.

Continued… For example look at convicted killer Scott Peterson. I recently read an article that even though he is a convicted killer and on death row he still get’s a lot of mail from women and they have shown some pictures of the women that have written to him and they are hot. It’s so strange this psycho guy Scott Peterson goes and kills his wife, unborn child, has an affair, is a convicted killer and on death row but yet some women are turned on with him. Scott Peterson is the true definition of LOOSER. Why would any women want such a guy???

This is complete and utter bullshit! All women are shallow kunts who only want to have rough, hot sex. Then, after many contracted STDs, a few aborted babies, or two bastard children do they realize that they really want a real man…too fucking bad, they had their chance and blew it on getting wasted and slammed more than a nail in the floor.

The comment by Jupiter “Used to always wonder why I couldn’t see this nice friend of mine as boyfriend material.
Now I see why; because he agrees with me so much I really can’t find much to talk about.” Women like you look at the nice men in “general terms” you don’t see the big picture where 99% of the good men will disagree with you and have arguments blah blah blah…

This sounds identical to my current life. My ex, who I am still not 100% over..total douche bag. But I loved his assertiveness, the way he swept me off my feet. Current guy that is my friend. We tried to date, but his “too nice guy” behavior got under my skin. How do you teach a guy to be assertive? I guess it’s no different than, can you teach someone to get self-esteem/ self-confidence?

This is for Mylife about your current ex that is a total dusche bag. I think your in a bad bad pattern of dating the complete douche bags and there are “nice guys” that are just like your ex except they leave the douche bag part behind. I think your just being totally selfish and shallow. Your other friend who you think is “too nice” maybe try telling him directly that you think he is acting too nice we men are not mind readers as so many women want to believe that we can just pick up on your so subtle hints or read your mind. Tell him what you want directly!! Also you could try dating a prisoner, gangster or a thug since seems like women these days like those type of complete LOSERS!! Or you can go back to your looser ex/total douche bag and still continue being miserable. You have to sacrifice something and now you have to figure out what you will sacrifice!!!

My problem is guys who have a male parent/step parent who cheated on/beat their mother etc. These guys are very nice, sensitive, loving, intelligent, sweep me off my feet, declare their undying love and MANY months or even after a year into the relationship, something happens, something kind of stupid, and they suddenly do a 180. LIke if we are out of town, they are grumpy, don’t tell me what about, we are in the car, presumably going somewhere in town and they just drive back to the city without telling me why. I usually am shocked. Then the little digs and put downs happen. “your computer is shit” “Your tent is crap.” to “Are you going to get a better job?” when their job isn’t exactly high status or paying either. And when I ask them what’s wrong, they need space and then suddenly break up with me like I’ve done something wrong. It’s completely out of my control. Why would a guy spend heaps of money and time on someone they are later going to call a slut or dumb? Is it guys from bad families? I still feel very upset about this as it has happened several times, even though on the outside they’ve all been different.

Now I know why no matter how much iI care 4 someone I’m always ditched for a guy that treats them like shit.

What is it with everyone bagging out women? wtf, really we have always been the same, always gone for the same kind of guys. Its just human nature. If men cant figure it out by now its there own stupid fault.
Just listen to some boy bands and love songs and you will learn all you need to about women.
Easy.

I take it the last comment was a joke.

Stacy,

Rather than blaming your situation (that I do have sympathy for, by the way). Did you ever ask yourself WHY you seem to go for the same kind of guy? You aknowledge this has happened before, several times, even.

In the end, the only common demominator in every situation, is . . . . YOU!

Dig, investigate, learn about yourself. The sooner you find the answer, the sooner you can prevent yourself from falling into the same trap!

Good Luck,
Tristan

Hey I read an advice saying nice guys should try being a little more assertive to sweep girls off their feet. But then what if you are not assertive because u are a meek kind of person. I mean A person is as assertive as their ability and confidence allows them to be. I mean u cannot pretend assertivenes.sooner or later u wil be embarrasingly exposed. For example is there hope for an average sized guy who cant take on a big bad guy who has no sense of shame and u are the nice guy who is aware of this and cant take him on.. what if u know u are likely to get beaten up and IT SHOWS IN YOUR BODY LANGUAGE , while u and your potential girlfriend are hanging out somehwere in the city.. what if u are self conscious guy who gets easily embarrassed ? Is there hope for such a guy. I mean there are bullies everywhere . And u are wary of them and it shows in your body language. Is there no hope ??

By now u may have figured I am one of those nice guys. Or may be just a nice guy coz I havent got much else going for me.

Hey JA

I don’t think the confidence needed to approach women and counter a thug or bully are the same.

How can you confuse the two?

Well if dont have the confidence to take on a thug , it wil have a bearing on your self esteem and ur own self image which are probably the sources of confidence when dealing with girl issues..

Especially if have been at the receiving end of a bullying thug ..

It’s funny. The frustration of being unconfident with girls, has given me the confidence to take on thugs. Confront them (eyeball them) and 9 times out of 10, they’ll back down. The 1 time in 10 they don’t, I guess you have to just take a punch or two. If they try to completely deck you, just fight dirty and use implements if you have to (this won’t mean that you’re not a man – it’s merely self defence at this stage).

Hey, I got a couple more questions [scenarios] .

1} When ur girl looks at you when u gettin beaten up,and worse u tryin to put a fight and lookin comical, will she stay with you and be supportive?Or will she just dump you?
I wil add tat in the scenario u try to put a bravefront rather than get all pessimistic and loser like , although u are still clearly feeling down..

2} Apart from physical,there is this verbal scenario. where the bully makes a mockery out of you sayin humiliating jokes on you and u are not able to get back with a quick witty one to shut him up. Worse his mates back him up by laughing. U are nervous and ur thinking goes dead. And u end up babbling.
And the main clincher is , he is shameless and u are not.

Any girl who goes for (or has any like or respect for) the aforementioned blokes is a piece of shit loser wench (enough said).

Try hanging out in different places and go for more intelligent and sophisticated girls. And if you have the time and discipline (I haven’t unfortunately), learn Jujitsu. Seriously, you could have all of those fuckers in the ground crying if you can master that. And if you do, please give one of them a kick in the head, for me.

Bullshit, all of this is bullshit. Let’s be honest I’ve been extremely random and pushy to 2 girls in the last 2 weeks. They both start the same: first they would talk for hours on the first day then just plainly ignore you. The truth is that most girls DESERVE assholes and should stfu about them being and acting as such. You eat what you grow.

Hey dudes , I am 22 and I am getting badly bullied. I have no recourse to justice and not physically strong. I am getting mentally scarred. I am also scared I am a coward and a decent girl whom I Love shall never love me back. I cant even ask Her because I cant defend her.She is intelligent and beautiful and Deserves a great guy. I am unable to deal with the fact that I may not deserve even more so with all this bullying. I am thinking about killing myself coz Whats the point ?

Do girls hate a guy that gets bullied ? Can guys Like me have a future with a girl like that ?

Ok this is what i have learned from experience. Regardless if your the shy guy or fit the definition of a Thug it dosent matter. Women want confidence. Confidence is the key. You can be that guy getting beat up in front of his girl. As long as your confident about loosing. Confident about how you cary yourself after spitting some blood on the ground. See the part women confuse with assholes is confidence. I know of a situation of a guy that will yell at his wife. Call her a slut, bitch, whore and then turn arround after she starts to leave him and threaten to kill himself beacuse he cant live without her.. LOL now what hes doing here is showing confidence to argue with her and then showing her hes sensative and cares. Hooked her everytime and she goes back to him which i feel sorry for her for. But anyways thats her choices and thats how it goes for some people. So as far as the guy goes thats shy and sensative. Get some confidence. Give her the rooler coaster effect with your confidence. Im not sayin you have to change who you are and treat her bad then good. Just show confidence in YOU always and know it when you look at her, when you love her… oh and if they ask you why you look so serious all the time learn to have more of a personality and laugh instead of acting confident so much.. women love to laugh as much as they chase confidence!

just my 2 pennies….

Okay, Im the ultimate ladies man.. so let me say..The thing is, you listen to females talk about guys they date..Don’t listen to females talk about the men who they date..Be too busy for that. And give them crazy ENERGY vibes, ATTITUDE and do fun things and talk less.

Females will diss anyone..Pain is what they NEED, pleasure is what they want..It’s the balance of life. love the hell out of them and play with them, but dont listen to them or give them advice because it doesnt work since pain is what they need and they will just give you their pain anyways because it is innate to their existence…Just create a role for yourself that is destined for pleasure and do fun things with many different ladies… When you find the right one, you will know it.

can’t get a date in the states? consider the alternative! The world is much bigger than the u.s. try another country such as brazil, italy canada, or argentina. the women are beautiful and don’t play games like american women are fond of. In fact, they run after nice guys just as hard as american women run after assholes. as a matter of fact, it is said by people all over the world in other countries that american women are the only ones who chase after shit. fair warning: once you go there, you may not want to come back… and why would you?!

ps in regard to american women 1: you can’t make a silk purse out of dog shit, so stop trying to change those who cannot be changed. 2: I didn’t realize Nicole Simpson was an inspiration! 3: There is no fool like an old fool!

Telling the guys to ‘man up’ is 20 years too late. Most guys nowadays avoid relationships altogether and either use craigslist or go to massage parlors.

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/dn/opinion/points/stories/DN-hymowitz_27edi.ART0.State.Edition1.378ca5b.html

so women don’t want nice guys. they want an assertive, confident asshole because they have a chance to change him. In the end though this asshole, if changed, is just another nice guy that they didn’t want in the first place.

OMG!!!! I give you so much kudos brava really! you nailed it completely I couldn’t have said that better myself! Coming from a womans stand point! Great post; glad I found it!!!

women are looking for physical traits too, obviously, but they are not as visual as men. with ALL men its sight first,antyhing else next. women are looking for cultural signals that a man is realtively aggressive and dominant enough to bring home food and gaurd the cave entrance while shes pregnant. this isnt always physical of course in the modern world. its the way you dress, car you drive, where you live – in other words how much money youve got. the more well off you are, the less other issues like appearance or personality matter. sad but true. but hey men, at least you dont have to put up with what women do. men are primarily looking for a physically healthy specimen in her breeding years. in other words young and good looking.

This post is so beautifully illustrated about two types of guys.
The 1st one an asshole who can flirt with gals n 2nd type me who is so cold n passive who cant drive crazy to d gals.
I used to date a gal in a cinema hall(repeating many times),but i came to know they don like d same venue.
They want every date to b a special but i my thought is dift but good one.i thought of marryin my ex gf but she broke off wit me coz c may b intersted in an asshole,nth much to say.

Most women aren’t into true assholes. When people say that women like “assholes” they usually mean physically attractive assertive guys. True assholes – those that physically and verbally abuse everyone around them and are likely to have ASPD – do not tend to attract women, even less so if they are not physically attractive. I’m not sure why people are throwing around “asshole” so liberally. Get your definitions right.

The girls who get attracted to assholes got to be the dumbest or else why would someone intelligent like assholes?

Girls go for assholes because this is an aggressive, violent society and they subconsciously think that if their man isn’t an asshole, then he won’t be able to protect her. I think that women need to be abused in order to be sexually aroused. But, not to much. At some point you become more of a danger than the outside world.

Well what about the asshole that verbally or even physically abuses his girl and she still keeps going
back? He he still being assertive? Your post is a
bunch of crap.

hi, i am a asshole to girls, nice guys finish last. women like assholes because they love drama and never feeling totally comfortable in a relationship. yes you can get women by being a nice guy who treats her amazing but after a while the woman will get bored of you and move on to someone else. you have to start off as a nice guy but then be a asshole a little after.

GUYS, CALM DOWN!!!! Holy moly cow. Okay, here we go. I’m a girl. And no I am not like those slutty, shallow, narrow minded girls that screams they want to f*** Trey Songz (bleh). I completely agree with this article, I date nice guys before and I do know some nice guys that REALLY want to be with me but I just can’t like them back that way!! Gah. I’m happy that whenever I met a new guy, I be friends with him first for a long time before going into relationships and stuff. I get to know them, right? One guy right now is so… nice. It’s like he’s desperately NEED someone to love and to love him back. UGH! C’mon. I want a guy to show me that they’re strong, they can live without a woman. And GUYS! ATTENTION!!! YOU DO NEED TO THINK WITH YOUR HEAD WHEN FIRST DATING THAT ONE GIRL, then after awhile, when you feels the stuff that you never felt before, you can now think with your head. Congratulations!

The guy that I’m with right now is very independent. He’s stubborn if he don’t get his way, he gets mad at me if I don’t do the stuff he want me to do. I got used to it. It’s not that he’s being an asshole, it tells me, “Oh, this guy really do care. :’) *sniff*) He even told me himself, he said, “I’m sorry if I seem like an asshole sometimes and being strict, I guess its because I care about you and want the best for you.” But yeah, he’s NOT the best looking guy in the world but I love him for him. And NO he don’t drink or smoke lol. Just saying. I’m hoping I’m gonna make him fall in love with me soon lol. It’s hard to get into his heart since he been lied to in the past and hate American girls now. Most of them. I’m Asian.

Once again, very nice article!! ♥♥

I mean HEART*!!!! O:!!!

As a woman, I agree with the article – it’s not that we ever intend to date assholes; it’s just that they’re good at making us believe that we’re the exception to their behavior. I once knew a guy who was an ass to absolutely everyone except a handful of his relatives. He managed to sweep me off my feet by treating me as one of those select few – until the day I unintentionally angered him. That was when I realized I was stupid to believe that I would never receive the asshole treatment he gave everyone else. I still remember the way my blood ran cold when the abuse began. I ended the relationship as a result but still felt shaky and sick to my stomach weeks later, afraid that he might try to hurt me again in some way or another. I should have known that an asshole will never be anything other than an asshole… I guess I just thought somehow that he thought about me differently, but I understand that it was all a part of his game. Assholes only want women in their life to make themselves look good – it has nothing to do with you. It’s all about them.

Women want to be tamed. If you treat a woman like a wild animal, you will succeed in getting laid. Women are freaks by nature. They bleed periodicaly. They constantly fantasize about being poked with long objects. They are downright sick in the head.

The problem with nice guys is they think that a woman is this friendly human that will satisfy your sexual desires if you just be nice to her.

There is really no grey area when approaching attractive women. You’re either there to capture them and drag them into your cave. Or you’re there to be publicaly humilated.

When approaching women be “a hunter”

Repeat after me…

I am a hunter! I am a hunter! I hunt wild women!
I am a hunter! I am a hunter! I hunt wild women!

Who the hell can afford to fly to the Carribien just like that? Really the assertive part is mostly true. Man up. I happen to know for a fact that girls SAY they want equality in the relationship but really they want a guy who will throw them to the ground and take control. (This is confirmed not by theory but practice in the field). Still if your attractive and have a shit load of money it doesn’t hurt either.

Its a rather strange phenomenon. It is part confidence. But you have to change over time. Women will eventually get sick of 8 straight months of parties and sex.

The way I figured it out is as a “Script”. Women have their own “Script” engraved into their heads as a child. Some see a Prince Charming, some see a Bad Boy, others see the Asshole who changed. In order to get a woman, confidence is needed, in order to keep a woman, you must follow her “Script”. If you want the woman bad enough, you have to pay attention to the long talks and figure out what her Script is. Then you change as her “Script” demands. If she wants an asshole who changes, be an asshole, who “changes” (you dont have to be an asshole by nature to do this, just a good actor). If she wants a Prince Charming, who saves her and protects her, then i suggest you drive her around, and be prepared to have a lazy housewife. If she wants a bad boy, be a bad boy. There are plenty of legal, bad things to do.

However, you could be the nice but confident guy and still lose to an asshole. All it takes is an immature woman. I’ve had this happen several times. I dated a specific girl, beautiful, extreeeemmmeeeeelllyyyy intelligent, funny, sarcastic too. But she was insecure. So a guy who i knew in highschool, who is now living off his brother’s company, flat broke himself, does nothing but fight all day (literally he is a mugger). She went for him because she was afraid of hurting me… Which did happen. I found a great woman i could see myself with for awhile, and lost her because i was human. I was vulnerable. Women want security, and an invulnerable man. Assholes arent humans. Thats why women run to them like flies to honey. The reason the better looking guys are assholes is because they get everything handed to them, and as time goes on, this trait only continues and grows until their mid-40′s where everyone is pretty much done having “Fun”. Of course people past mid-40′s try to have fun, but they have learned moderation by then. So the assholes are up a creek. I also agree with a much earlier comment “The reason i didnt see nice guys as Dating material is because they agreed with me so much that we had nothing to talk about”. Its true. Women want to be able to talk to their partner. The way to best get a woman, is intelligence, have something to talk about that they DIDNT KNOW or DONT AGREE with. It catches and keeps there attention. This can be done without heated arguments. Again, the super intelligent girl was able to converse with me for hours on end because i understood what she was saying but disagreed and made sense. Maybe she’ll grow up one day and things might turn out differently, but as for now. I understand why i dont want to be with her now. Thank you for reading through my ramblings.

I am not sure that being an asshole is the way to go, but I am pretty sure that being to keen is a turn off.

I met a girl recently, awesome date, afterwards we kissed passionately in the car and got very heated.

We both said we liked each other.

We met up again two days later and I guess because this had occured I wrognly assumed I was now her boyfriend and I was too familiar. Killed the attraction she intially had because I was no longer a challenge. Big pity too as she was really nice, but now any feelings of attraction I intially have for her are gone as well becuase if a girl had run so hot and cold…well fuck her too! Next!

Hate to sound like an emo faggot, but here goes.

Life is such bullshit man, I work my ass off to even get one girl when I someone else walking around with a new girl every week. What the fuck? Its not fair, I could never be an asshole, I’m sensitive and I treat women like gold but always get dumped. Just once I’d like to find a good girl and keep her long enough to slip her the ring.

You know I’ve struggled with this for years. Some of what this article says makes sense, but seriously? Who the hell can afford a Carrabin trip just to ”impress” a girl?

But the thing about all this that pisses me off is that is ”has” to be a game. I’m a VERY straightforward person. I believe in talking to people right to their face and letting them know what I think or how I feel right then and there. I really hate that most girls get kicks playing these little games…expecting me to pretty much read their mind…expecting me to read their body language. I’ve come across quite a few girls in my 23 years of life that I’ve suspected have been quite attracted to me, But 95% of them will not just tell me they like me! It would cut out alot of bullshit if we didn’t have to play games and go threw this whole lame riggimroll. It’s not fucking high school anymore! Grow up! Its time to figure out what you want outta life…People always tell us guys be a MAN…Well I’m saying to you all…Be a WOMAN, figure out what you want outta life…You’re 20′s is the time to do it.

I’m not trying to say I’m a perfect guy, I know I’m not. But seriously…ladies…You’re fucking with people emotion’s when play these god damned games. Flirt with us? Make us think you really want to get to know us better? EVEN GO AS FAR AS TO ASK FOR OUR NUMBER…Then never call us? What the fuck is that?

Sorry if I seem like a dick, but I’ve got a lot of pent up frustration on this subject.

its all about what you look like. i had a friend who could get any girl he wanted and then once he did he would treat them terribly. i watched him hold down a girl on his bed and spit in her mouth…… not even kidding and then 20 minuts later i had to leave because she wanted to have sex. i watched him give a girl a flying elbow drop to the head on purpose and 2 months later she was still with him and taking all sorts of abuse. yet on the other hand i have another friend who is ugly as hell and tries to treat girls the same way and they just think he is creepy.

i forgot to add that it also has to do with what a woman wants out of a guy. im more of a quiet and shy person and have been pretty succesful in relationships. i tend to be a nice guy. i focus more on making the girl laugh than being a tough guy. iv had girls leave me because i wasnt bad enough or wasnt as outgoing as they would like but i have also had girls that i couldnt get rid of because i was so nice and funny and didnt treat them like dirt. some girls like tough guys who are good with their hands and always in charge. some like party animals that will go clubbin’ with them and stay up drinking all night. some like nice guys. some like funny guys. noone likes an asshole. but you will be surprised with how much certain girls will put up with if you look good enough or have a lot of money. or if your realy good in the sack. guys are just as guilty of this as well.

Like most guys I just stopped caring after a while. Just abuse and use left and right. We guys never needed the emotional attachment anyway. Its the woman that made us think that way. So set yourself free and live life like your supposed to. And dont let anyone take anything from you. Take from them everything, give them nothing

Genetics, instinctive, animal logic behavior..

arsehole guys usually have alpha, dominating, leader traits. Many women I notice seem to have this problem of going for them unnoticed of what kind of person they really are. Time and time again they complain about men and that we are all arseholes because they choose to go for these men..Women hate being told they are wrong, they never seem to accept its them that let these men come into there lives when they could go for a nice guy instead

I mite add the defense on a comment like that would or usually is an attack on a guys confidence or being negative, biter as such.. Its usually a poor excuse because im hitting a nerve on these girls.

A lot of the comments on here blame the women. For men being assholes. That’s a little frustrating to read.

Generally speaking, I think many people are incompetent at interacting with other people. As a straightforward person, I don’t really understand games, but I think people play them because they are not self reflective enough to articulate what they want.

Honestly, you could take every bit of advice to “get girls” that you can get your hands on, and it is entirely possible that none of it will work. It is possible that you, the guy, could be doing everything “right” and still end up alone all your life. This is just something that happens to people. If you imagine all of the possible permutations that life has to offer, you can see that it is quite likely that not everyone will get what they want.

This isn’t really a nice guy/asshole argument at all. It’s a life thing. The world is messy and overpopulated. There are tons of issues and thoughts flying at us all the time that we have to sort out. Pick a few things and spend your life working on them. Maybe you’ll get laid, or marry, or date all your life, or sit in your house and write computer programs or throw yourself into research or music whatever it is that you do. It’s just life and it goes how it goes.

I realize that with the strength of the male sex drive being what it is, not getting enough sex can be really really awful. Being bullied and being rejected is also quite painful.

However, plenty of humans spend their lives putting up with things they don’t like. Think of the families living in politically unstable countries in police states where the daily fear of someone coming to your door and killing your family is a real, true concern. Think of people with chronic health problems that have to take medication all their lives and only feel marginally better or not better at all. And there is no way out. Not everyone who is single is single because something is wrong with them. It’s just how things happened to work out.

In the meantime, it isn’t helpful to objectify people or generalize them. Statements like “Men are like this” or “Women are like this” won’t help you make peace with your situation. Confirmation bias is something that humans do when they think something, and then as a result of that belief, their attention is drawn to examples of it everywhere, thereby confirming what they already thought was true. You can see proof of anything, because out there, there are so many possibilities it is quite easy to see what you want to see.

I know it’s frustrating to be single and to have trouble with dating when you see people around you who are not having trouble. If you really are a kind and thoughtful person, then you can be comforted in knowing that you’ve done your best. However, it would probably be worth doing some very close examination of who you are and what your motives are. “Rational” does not mean “this makes sense to me.” It means that you have an objectively well thought out line of reasoning that leads to to the same conclusion regardless of the circumstances. And “but i see girls dating jerks everywhere!” doesn’t count because remember…confirmation bias. Use the scientific method with your own head. It is the only tool humans have to get past their own mental blocks and preconceived notions.

The end of the story is that your life will go how it goes. This goes for men and women of any age at any level of income or health. Learn how to interact with people in a way that is fair, balanced, and efficient. Learn to look at life with a peaceful sense of curiosity. This is a tall order for a lot of people but the years it took me to realize this were well worth it and kept me from killing myself.

the problem is that people dont listen to their hearts,
just an illusion of their soul that resides in their brains.

listen to your feelings

if you are mad, yell and break shit

if you are happy, help people and sing joyously
save someones life

if you love someone physically show it
get caught up in the momment.

if you feel cruel than be absolutely sadistic.

if more people acted on their feelings we’d have a more honest universe.

I have been thru so many scenarios that make no sense. It’s true, being nice get you zip, nada, nothing. It gets you either scammed by nigerian women, or taken advantage of by golddiggers, or just blocked from e-mailing her back and no polite message why it didn’t work out. I had a person that lived in the hills, and she was nice, sounded interested. All there was was just 1 date. We talked about a bunch of different things, but got nothing as far as a thank you..but I don’t think we clicked. She just blocked me from e-mailing her!!! I got so disappointed that I closed my dating account. Do we have to be rich or not a nice guy?

Whatever happened to just being yourself? Half of the earth’s population is women, the other half is men. There is someone for everybody. If quantity is what you want, then fine, be arrogant and get the girls one after another. If quality is what you want, THEN DON’T CHANGE YOURSELF FOR ANYONE! The right person for you will love you because of who you are. If you change yourself and attract the wrong girl, then when you revert back to your personality, she won’t love the real you and will want the “fake you”.

As an advice column, or whatever this is supposed to be, it is pretty poor if your purpose is to enlighten and help. Your terms are vague and subjective and most of all superficial. “Asshole,” is not a proper thematic term and could and does include any type of behavior from dangerous forms of anti-social disorders to more innocuous shades of narcissism. Women would be well-advised to look out for the more subtle signs of such mental disorders while dating because they tend to misidentify men who are otherwise psychologically normal, normally assertive, and have strong character traits as boring or passive (boring and passive are not the same thing, by the way) and run the danger of falling into abusive relationships by choosing the “asshole.” Relatively normal men may seem a bit “boring” to begin with but natural reserve also tends to reflect high native intelligence as well as prudent decision making skills. A man who is going to “sweep you off your feet” with a big trip to Europe, Mile High Club etc. after three dates, on the other hand, may literally be crazy (bipolar disorder, drug abuse, or have little or no natural impulse control, i.e. indicating a natural criminal disposition) so this is probably not going to be a good future partner, especially if you plan to have a family. It is unfortunate that the author chooses to stereotype the “boring” guy and certainly outrageous to suggest the term “man up” as any kind of serious advice to this painfully complex problem (who the hell would want to use a phrase popularized by Sharron Angle?). If you, as a man, feel you are not assertive and lack confidence, don’t worry. There are many things you can do to develop healthy assertiveness and self-confidence. The best and most effective way is through a little therapy — I personally advocate group therapy for this particular need. It will take some time and patience depending on how things are with you but with training and practice, you should be all right. You may also be suffering from some depression, but that, too, can be treated. On that note, remember that dating and the whole sex and reproduction thing is extremely complex and complicated but through it all, try to keep a zen-like perspective. If the “asshole” gets the girl once again, just let the river flow past. If you work on your healthy assertiveness and self-confidence and keep in the game, that’s all you can do. The rest is up to fate. I once read somewhere, I wish I could remember, that according to statistics, each person on the planet has something like 40-50,000 potential compatible mates. I like to think it was probably some very bored or boring and dateless math nerd trying to cheer him or herself and others up. Good luck.

This part in the article made me really laugh about how a lot of women think a**holes “uninspiring”. Ha ha ha, you want uninspiring well then women are dating the right men for being uninspiring. Those a**holes, D-Bags, Losers are the uninspiring ones and don’t have much of anything going for them. Those a**holes, losers that a lot of women like are those deadbeats, they don’t do anything, so women now days think losers, deadbeats, drop outs, uneducated, a**holes are inspiring? How are they inspiring? These pathetic losers, deadbeats, dropouts, uneducated, thugs don’t have anything going for them. But on the other hand the women that go for these such losers also don’t have much going for them and don’t have a lot of Self Esteem issues. I think women get the so called “nice guys” confused. The so called “nice guys” are those math, geek nerds that don’t have much of any social skills. Also though what women these days perceive as “nice guys” usually have a D-Bag side to them. Um yeah this article is kind of BS and giving a false impression to a lot of women that the a**holes have these jets and on an eight date or so to fly to this “place” or on a whim take her to the Carribean. This article needs to get real. This is a BS stupid article.

ImaGirl: “C’mon. I want a guy to show me that they’re strong, they can live without a woman.” Careful with this statment cause this can be a big turnoff for men as men could easily translate this statement into she’s trying to act too much like a guy (no guy want a lady that act’s too much like a guy), this statement could also translate for a lot of guys that all she want’s to do is party till she passes out (never grows up, never is the “social drinker”)also this statement comes across as your not that “serious”, it comes across as if your “bored” just throw him to the curb and don’t work on the relationship.

Re ImaGirl: “He’s stubborn if he don’t get his way, he gets mad at me if I don’t do the stuff he want me to do. I got used to it. It’s not that he’s being an asshole, it tells me, “Oh, this guy really do care. :’) *sniff*) He even told me himself, he said, “I’m sorry if I seem like an asshole sometimes and being strict, I guess its because I care about you and want the best for you.”

You are in such denial thinking he is not an “a**hole. With your statement, it’s all written on the wall by him not getting “his way”, making you get use to his attitudes, his being strict (he’s an a**hole). You’d be much better off without him, dump him before he starts taking sh*t out on you and starts abusing you.

Re: “Most women aren’t into true assholes. When people say that women like “assholes” they usually mean physically attractive assertive guys.” This is a perfect example of women taking the “nice guys” and thinking they are these sappy “nice guys”, “nice guys” can just as easily have the physically attractive and assertive parts. A lot of women think “nice guys” are this all black and white (no pun intended). A lot of women think “nice guys” are these wussies, not assertive. So far from the truth.

You females fail big time, period. It is the female species that will never learn and that is a fact. Or rather, 50% of the entire females out there. The other 50% are not like you.

This is the guy that girls and women alike SHOULD go after. Everything that is mentioned up there (which includes assertive, go wild, etc.) in a guy except that it would be in a GOOD GUY and NOT the abusive ones a.k.a. a**holes.

Admit it. You female species that fail (and always will) will never wake up and smell the coffee as long as you do not find the requirements you want in a GOOD GUY instead of an abusive a**hole.

End of story. Cannot believe that I am making a comment to these 50% females who will NEVER learn and understand.

Plain and simply, girls like a challenge. Much like how a guy wants to conquer a girl, likewise a girl wants to conquer the seemingly ‘unconquerable Man.’ Word of advice to you guys out there, don’t chase her. Make her chase you.

I’ve just read this article and it proves once again that women don’t know what they want at all. All I can say is that when their bad boy has them trapped at home, repeatedly raping and beating the crap out of them, they are just getting what they wanted. Hopefully that is exciting enough for them… Not knowing if the next punch is going to be the one that takes them out permanently. Tell me I’m wrong but I’m not.

I am a woman who has had her experiance with A-hole men, the kind that are nice for a few weeks to reel you in and then treat you like their own personal emmotional and mental punching bag. Now I am married to a “boring” nice guy, who isn’t really all that boring, he is dependable and it is exciting that he will be able to provide for his family. Nothing unsexy or uninteresting about a man like that. A man who’s first thought is for thsoe around him and not just about himself. I have a friend who has a douochebag husband, she is the nicest person you will EVER meet, plays piano for the church, works a real job at the bank, is a philanthropist when financially able. Then there is her dumb POS husband. 40 yrs old, a drunk, a druggy, just kinda nasty overall- no personality of so to speak and is just about the most prickish selfsish arrogant man-child you will ever meet. WHY!? We seriously all want to know what the hell the draw is to this loser of extraordinary proportions. She brings home a steady paycheck, he takes it to the bar or some drug dealer (by the way he looks like a cracked out Meth head)She is sitting at home for days, she is finding slutty wemon’s phone #’s in his texts…on top of this she can’t have children but would be perfect for adoption – but OH WAIT A-Hole loser pants has 2 felonies, one he JUST got this year. Does he care that he is screwing her out of her dreams, hell no- he just wants hit a pipe, get waisted and abuse her trust somemore. We all hate him, she swears her undying love for him all over FB, and as much as we love her as a person we all think, what the hell is wrong with you? I guess some wemon just like their men a lot on the extra a-hole side.

That’s fine if you want to be an a-hole, but not if you want something serious. Though, there is a difference between “chasing” and “pursuing”. Maybe the next article…

because they fit right in with them.

these women will eventualy settle for a ‘.nice guy” after having the assholes kids.they will find a fool to take of them.but then she’ll be screwing the douche behind hes husband’s back. Do i sound bitter? Ya damn right i’m bitter! Thats what bitches do. it does nnt matter how good you are tn them or how much you love them.there always looking for someone better

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