The Good Friend
Everyone needs a good friend they can turn to for relationship advice. And everyone you date should have a friend like that too.
In fact, it’s a red flag when a girl I date doesn’t have a good, sensible friend like that. Who’s going to tell her she’s being paranoid, unreasonable, or irrational? Who’s going to keep her grounded and sane? Who’s going to share in the giddiness of a new relationship or offer comfort in times of distress with her?
In a more established relationship, sure, I can do that. But in the early throes of a blossoming one, she’ll need that counterweight so her insecurities don’t flare up dangerously.
Same goes for guys in a new relationship. Guys are famously clueless when it comes to reading girls. They never quite “get it.” Only after the girl gets mad does the guy realize he did something stupid.
These guys definitely need a good friend. And not that horny, single, bitter buddy either. He needs a sensible friend (perhaps a female) who can tell him when he’s being selfish and when he’s being clingy. This friend, if it’s a good friend, will tell him to make sure he sends her something for her birthday (and that he remembers it at all). Or that he’s being insecure about something she said or didn’t say.
Without this good friend, both sexes will be that much harder to date – because they’ll be caught in a whirlwind of their own emotions and imaginations, with nary a way to vent and gain outside perspective. So hopefully, your date has a good friend like that. And you do too.
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