Comments on: Comparing Dates to Ex’s

By: Giovanni Azael

Giovanni Azael — Tue, 04 May 2010 07:33:43 +0000

It’s really true how the mind of humans work. We really do tend to do that, and that’s why after a break up, I rather chose to be alone. I rather use that time to examine and learn from the experience that was at hand. By doing so I learn about certain things that can be prevented from the beginning. For example, a lot of times the problems we have during a relationship had always been there. See, the thing with people is that we are easily amazed and wowed and for some reason, at the beginning, we tend to let so many things slide. We over look so many things. Think for a minute about the problems that led to your break up and see if there were any signs that presented itself from the beginning that you may have overlooked. You may have ran across someone who always had ex’s they claim were bad and never had anything else to say about themselves. That same person turns out to be a ms./mr. know it all. That person never admits their fault in a relationship. When you look back it’ll click. This was a girl who never found wrong in herself from the beginning but all of that was overlooked.I learned to look to hear of the lessons learned from past relationships rather than sit around and hear about the wrongs of the past ex. I guess I can say for me, I just chose a lot wiser now. I would never want to compare the present to the past because the reason the past ended up in the past was because the past didn’t belong in the present. Just wouldn’t be fair.

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By: Mr. Write

Mr. Write — Tue, 20 May 2008 04:43:33 +0000

I’d argue that you’re still comparing your dates to ex’s, Z, even when things are going well. It’s just less obvious, because you’re “in the zone” and are loving every minute of the date. But every time the date does or says something that you know to be a “Cool, I like that!” trait, you’re unconsciously polling from your past – because otherwise, how would you know it to be a “Cool, I like that!” trait?

By: Zack Taylor

Zack Taylor — Tue, 20 May 2008 03:19:33 +0000

I find that I only compare dates to ex’s when the date is going poorly. When the date is going well, I tend to forget all about the other girls.

By: Potted Plant

Potted Plant — Mon, 19 May 2008 22:37:35 +0000

As much as we don’t want to admit it, everyone compares to the past. But sometimes it is not just about what was good and you want again – it can be about what you want to avoid in the future. I like to think that I learn with each relationship and I learn what didn’t work for me. There’s a reason they are exes after all.