Archive for June, 2008
Introduction to pursuit theory
Somewhere on a playground, a little girl pinches a little boy and then turns and runs away. The little boy gives chase. He’s not entirely sure why he’s chasing her, or what he’ll do if and when he catches her, but he does it anyway. He doesn’t even stop to think about it, all he [...]
Dear Matchmaker: I’m Single NOT Desperate
I appreciate when people want to set me up with their single friends. However, some people get overly invested in their role as matchmaker. Just because I am single and their friend is single does not mean that it’s a match made in heaven. When I tell them that I am not interested in their [...]
It’s the self esteem, stupid
When people ask me what the most important part of dating is, my answer is simple: self esteem. Self esteem is important from the moment you decide to meet someone right through into having a serious, committed relationship. If this ingredient is missing, you’re destined to self destruct in one way or another. So what [...]
When to ask her out: The acquaintance
An acquaintance is somewhere between a stranger and a friend. It’s someone that you speak to on a regular basis but don’t necessarily communicate with outside of a recurring situation. An acquaintance is the waitress at the restaurant that you go to all the time, or another student in a class you’re taking, or a [...]
ONE (more) NIGHT STAND?
Hop a plane Friday and back by Sunday.
TEMPTING. Sort of.
“Take your time.” He hasn’t asked me why I’ve waited a day or two (or three…) to get back to him. Smart guy. Gives me less of an excuse to write him off. Literally.
“I do have quite a few friends I grew up [...]
How to impress a woman
I am constantly and profoundly stunned at what men consider to be a passable or even presentable form of impressing a woman. To be very clear, there is only ONE thing all women want regardless of the list of attributes she throws at you. You will be amazed how bendable that list is when [...]
SEX in Seattle?
It’s URGENT.
“Hey,” he’s playing it smooth. I almost buy it. “It’s me. Call me.”
Only two face-to-face meetings with what was supposed to be a textbook one-night-stand and he’s already thrusting himself into the familiar. Thank GOD it went straight to voice-mail.
… one hippopotamus… two hippopotamus… three hippopotamus… BINGO!
Text #1: HOW [...]
7 Things You Should Never Say to Your Single Friends
1. It’s a numbers game: That is the last thing someone who just closed 1,456 matches on e-Harmony wants to hear. The absolute last thing.
2. It just takes one: No pressure. None at all there.
3. Been on any hot dates lately?: If we are on hot date, you will know about it. Everyone will - they [...]
My favorite date idea
As men, it’s typically our job to come up with fantastic ideas for dates. Yes, you’ll start off with coffee and then maybe move on to dinner and a movie, but what else? This new girl in your life wants to be taken out of the norm, she wants you to help her escape the [...]
A missed opportunity
One of the most popular, and accurate, pieces of dating advice is the five-second rule. For those unaware, the five-second rule says that you if you see some you’re attracted to, you must approach them within five seconds. The logic is two fold: 1) it doesn’t give you the opportunity to overthink it, and 2) [...]
