How to impress a woman
I am constantly and profoundly stunned at what men consider to be a passable or even presentable form of impressing a woman. To be very clear, there is only ONE thing all women want regardless of the list of attributes she throws at you. You will be amazed how bendable that list is when you can make her feel this way.
Make her feel that she’s the most special and perfect woman.
Simple right? Yet many men’s attempt to impress a woman seems to be more about them and less about her.
Telling her that you’re a great catch because women desire you or talking about your dating prowess does not make you more desirable. If you knew anything about women’s competitive nature , this type of conversation only puts her in a place where she is now comparing herself to your past and/or present as she decides rather she wants to be you future. As men define attractiveness differently than women, don’t assume just because you were willing to date those women, she wants to be associated with them through you. Remember to a woman, her measure of you is also about the company that you have kept. If she thinks you had absolutely no standards, she wonders where she fits in that spectrum. Unfortunately ’standard’ is her subjective measure, so play it safe and avoid it. She knows you have a past, and that’s enough information.
Telling her that you have graduated with an MBA, PhD., MD etc from an Ivy League again is not about her but about you. In a city full of them, it doesn’t make you more desirable, but makes her wonder why you’re leading with that attribute. A confident and brilliant man let’s his accomplishments speak for themselves. I promise if you’re that brilliant, she’ll know within the first few meetings.
Telling her that you are a triathlete, again is not about her but an attribute about yourself. As you go on and on about your rigorous training, the thoughts running through her head is…with such an extensive training schedule, he won’t be around. She can objectively admire your discipline, she will be relating your lifestyle and wonder how that fits into her life.
Remember, not only is she trying to determine your desirability beyond initial physical attraction, but how well she thinks you fit into her life. And despite a long list of what was once ‘must haves’ it becomes a list of ‘nice to have’ in face of a man that makes her feel completely and totally desirable.
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Comments
I like the rule, “Make her feel that she’s the most special and perfect woman” too. I think the execution just differs from relationship to relationship. But in the end, if your significant other knows he/she is special to you, then you’ve got the makings of a good & healthy relationship there.
Hmmm…seems like this post would be more accurately titled, “How not to impress a woman.” So the question I have for you is this: how do you impress a woman? If I’m not allowed to talk about what I’ve done or who is or has been in my life, what am I supposed to talk about?
I whole-heartedly agree that it’s important to make a woman feel special and important and also agree that talking about exes is never a good idea; I just have a hard time believing that the way to a girl’s heart is to never reveal anything about your life, interests, or past. Seems like that would make a guy seem pretty boring and undesirable.