I appreciate when people want to set me up with their single friends. However, some people get overly invested in their role as matchmaker. Just because I am single and their friend is single does not mean that it’s a match made in heaven. When I tell them that I am not interested in their friend, they get offended and a slew of arguments soon follow:
- “How do you already know?”
- “You haven’t even given her a chance?”
- “You may like her later when you get to know her.”
- “Chemistry doesn’t happen right away, you know.”
- “How come you’re not attracted to her? She’s beautiful.”
When they become incessant, it becomes a disservice to their friend because it pushes me further away. It is as if these matchmakers are more of an expert on me than ME I’ve been dating for most of my life, so I know what I like, don’t like, am attracted to, feel chemistry with, and if there’s potential. Anyway, I’m still figuring out how to tactfully let these matchmakers understand that I appreciate their intentions but that I am not interested.
What do you think? Leave a comment!
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