Older Woman Seeking Boy Toy
I decided to address Rebecca’s comment and write about my propensity to date younger men. Being the good little blogger that I am, I did a little research on the exact definition of a cougar and found that there are multiple variations:
- Puma - A woman who is not quite old enough to be a cougar, but still likes to date/mate with younger men. Typically she is in her late 20s to mid 30s. She typically finds her prey at sporting events or in the office.
- Cougar – A 35+ year old female who is on the hunt for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. She can be found in nightclubs, bars, beaches and swanky hotel lobbies. Most cougars wear padded bras, overexpose their cleavage and don’t play the BS games girls in their early twenties participate in.
- Jaguar - In the glossary of older women seeking younger men lingo, a jaguar is 50 and over and tends to be financially stable and is only looking for sex from their 20 something prey.
Now that we have definitions out of the way, let’s move on to the real perplexing question – why are women choosing to date younger men?
And the answer is - women are not choosing younger men – men are choosing older women. Most men find the confidence and sexiness of older women more appealing that of girls their age. What has changed is that they are now not afraid to go after that older woman. Women too are becoming bolder when it comes to dating and not picking the conventional stable older male provider, but choosing non-traditional characteristics for their soulmate which often leads them to younger men.
While I’m not a full blown cougar yet, I am definitely a little puma on training wheels – it’s no secret to my friends that I have a soft spot for the younger boys – going as far as going on dates with boys 5 years my junior. For me, it’s not about the age, it’s about the energy level that younger men have. I find men in their late 20s to be past the frat boy stage but not yet the settled couch potato. If someone my age had the energy level of the younger boys then I would have no problem dating them, but I find boys my age to be a little too settled and complacent or boring.
Plus, no woman with good sense is going to say no to a young ripped hot bod…
Agree? Disagree? Leave a comment!
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Interesting to know these things. I’ve been a puma from the start by the definition here. Always been more attracted to younger males. I’m 26 and wouldn’t mind dating as far as 10 younger than me and though people may be appaled at the thought, I just prefer a clean slate to work with. I enjoyed your post. I must disagree about the last part. A good friend of mine though only 2 yrs younger would never even give a younger guy than her a chance because she prefers the maturity and stability older men have to offer…
boy do I wish the internet was around 30 years ago. It is too late in my life to pursue a cougar. I am 55 now, so alas, I am “over the hill”
sorry but I just happened to stumble into this site and figured I would comment.
AT 21 years old, I was a virile, muscular, football player for a major university. (sorry, I dont want to paint the wrong picture of “being in love with myself” because it was anything but that)…………. I was SHY and INSECURE inside.
I met a woman one evening in a club who was as hot as could be to me. She was attractive, funny, witty, and just nice to be with. Her husband was there, but he was ignoring her and was in a different room. We laughed and talked and just had a good time together. I gave her my phone number but I never heard from that doll again. She was about 40-45, almost double my age.
Imagine my surprise when “Jimmy” the bartender gave me a little slip of paper about a month later. It was her phone number that she wanted him to pass along to ME !!!!!!!!. But “Jimmy” told me “dont do it, you will regret it if her husband finds out”
well, I thought long and hard about it, but as I mentioned way up above, i was insecure and not really so sure of myself other than on the football field. I never called her.
TO this day, I regret it. I can still see her after almost 35 years. She was FUN, NICE, Attractive, and gee , did I want to “put her over the edge , again and again, and yet AGAIN” ( I had the energy in those days)
So my only comment, is if you find what you are looking for than re-assure him somehow. I wish I was braver then and that the internet was around so that I could have at least loooked up something like this.
regards and best of luck
Gud
i am 25 and looking for women of 30-40 anybody interested should email me..paulson.roberts@yahoo.com
i am 17 and have been wanting older women for a while now but it just does not happen. always i go out to clubs and place’s but everytime someone finds out your age they just turn away.
I really liked your analysis of why guys go for older women. So do you think that still applies for men in their 30s?
On a side note, I disagree with the definitions of “cougar” on urban diction because they set it as 35+ instead of 40. Also, they neglected the origin of the name. Hmmm, maybe I need to state my own definition.