Dating Definition: cougar
Function: noun
Definition: A woman aged 40 years or old who preys on younger men. During a hunt, she can often be spotted by her leopard print outfit, which makes her feel and look younger.
Example: “Sweet, look at all the cougars at this bar. Looks like we’ll be getting our drinks bought for us tonight.”
Background: The name “cougar” was used because it was associated with the leopard print clothing that was popular among these women to help them feel young. My definition of cougar places the age of the woman starting at 40. I disagree with definitions that state cougars are 35+ because it seems arbitrary. Statistically, the risk of pregnancy complications significantly increases at age 35, however, culturally that age is not very significant. However, age 40 is recognized as “over the hill” and therefore many people have their midlife crisis then. Therefore, major shifts in a person’s own identity occurs so to maintain a sense of their youthfulness, cougars will have plastic surgery, get Botox injections, and wear provocative clothing.
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Hmmm, sounds like you may have a definition in the making of younger guys going after cougars. Got a name for it?
Dating a younger man has made me feel wonderful, mine is in his 20s and im n my 40s hes a great lover and very caring
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I have only just recently heard of this “cougar” concept, and I have been dating younger men for years. I have noticed, though, especially in the past year that the men come on to me in droves. Most under 25. I don’t look for them, they find me. As far as men expecting you to pay for their drinks; that’s not my experience, they buy my drinks in most cases.
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The thing about the cougar-boy toy relationship is that cougars shouldn’t expect that their boy toys would marry them. Ultimately, boy toys would look for someone their age. Also, cougars shouldn’t expect their boy toys to flaunt them or even introduce them to their families, especially if they have conservative and old-fashioned parents.
If the relationships are more substantial than “cougar-boy toy”, then yes, there is mutual respect and love. My boyfriend is 28; I’m 46. He is my heart and he can’t stop bragging about me to his friends. (he is also 6′3 and I’m 4′11..hmmm..) He respects me being a business woman and I respect him for his intellect and spontanaeity. Tonight he told me he hopes that we will be together a long time. I hope the same.
I’m 40 and my boyfriend is 19. I’m very happy but it is work. Too bad family and friends don’t understand our happiness.
I definitely agree with Alex. If you want a sexual relationship with a younger guy, fine. Even if you want an emotional relationship, go for it, but don’t expect it to be like a regular relationship. Don’t expect to meet their friends, definitely don’t expect to meet their parents (I suspect a lot of “stay away from my son you filthy whore!” and such comments) and certainly don’t expect marriage. If you try to make it more than it really is, it won’t last. Even if you do get married…it won’t last if your age is too far apart.
Which brings me to one last thing: DONT go for guys who are young enough to be your son. That’s disgusting. You may as well go out and date your son then, it would be just as disgusting. Be realistic.
Isn’t the rule half one’s age plus 7? So 28 to 46 is close.
The dynamics of this whole age thing have probably been beaten to death. Between consenting adults if this is what they want, who are we to judge. Even when the norms are followed to make everyone happy, relationships still fail at an alarming rate so why even worry.
As for parents and friend, if you can’t defend your choices, don’t see anyone. Period.
Wow. The cougar concept is news to me.
Most 40+ women I know are being pursued online by younger men who say the girls their age only want marriage-family-material trimmings. They desire an older woman who has experienced and transcended those phases and derives more satisfaction in creating a deeper connection.
Do you understand the attraction?