Comments on: Pursuit theory: The guy’s role

By: Pursuit Theory: The first phone call | Dating advice, tips and experiences | Dating blogs & forums

Sat, 04 Apr 2009 01:17:57 +0000

[...] talked a bit about pursuit theory in the past, both what is expected from guys and girls, but it’s helpful to take a look at a specific situation to really understand the [...]

By: DITCH those who go DUTCH | Dating advice, tips and experiences | Dating blogs & forums

Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:36:59 +0000

[...] It goes hand-in-hand with Zack Taylor’s PURSUIT THEORY. That’s [...]

By: sexAFTERsix

sexAFTERsix — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 23:05:25 +0000

It’s a big turnoff for me when a guy calls to “figure out” where to go on a date — and doesn’t have any options ready. Especially for the initial meeting.

Give me at least three different places, three different time slots and three different activities to choose from. Really.

It let’s me know that you’ve thought about it, and have put some time and effort into spending time with me. That I’m worth it, and I won’t regret making time getting to know you, too.

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 18:53:42 +0000

Great post I enjoyed the read. I just wanted to add one thing. If you guys know what to look for, making the first move is not as scary as it seems. If you know what to look for you will discover it’s actually the women who make the first move, when you spot it you can react to it knowing she is already intersted.

The key is knowing what their first move is…

By: Aphrodite

Aphrodite — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 00:39:22 +0000

HAHA! Trust me sweetie…
I look at them in their beautiful eyes and smile.
Then my friends are telling me that men are intimidated by me, EHH.

My ol’ saying used to be “don’t chase him, replace him”
The more I replace him, the more I end up with horrible men.

By: Zack Taylor

Zack Taylor — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 00:31:57 +0000

@Aphrodite – I think you’re in the majority. Most girls I know don’t want to pursue, and you really shouldn’t have to. What I’d challenge you to do is instead of making a game out of approaching men, make a game out of getting them to approach you. See what sort of signals you can send that will entice them to walk over. Make eye contact and smile, ask your girlfriend to run to the bathroom to give him an opportunity to approach you by yourself…anything to get him the signal that it’s okay to approach.

And nice quote on your MySpace page. I’m glad you thought enough of it to include in on your profile.

By: Aphrodite

Aphrodite — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 00:27:11 +0000

Okay Mr. Taylor –

Everything you had mentioned in this article is so true! I admit I feel like I’m being the pursuer… I really hate to be, but oh well. I really dislike this feeling, “Why should I chase him?” But at the same time, I feel like it was my fault for turning him down 2 years ago. Our communication opened up a few weeks ago and now, I don’t know if he’s feeling the same way.

My girlfriend and I had a bet that us women have to approach men. It’s kind of irritating how men stares at you for so long and not say a word, so when a man start staring, then we will approach him. This was a good experiment.

By: Zack Taylor

Zack Taylor — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 20:04:57 +0000

@Robert – Anything worth having is worth working for. If you’re not willing to do the work, do you feel that you really deserve it?

By: Aphrodite

Aphrodite — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 16:42:33 +0000

How can you tell if the guy likes you?

By: Robert

Robert — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 18:53:15 +0000

“You must be the one to approach, you must be the one to call, you must be the one to pick a spot for your date.”

What you said is true, although sometimes is hard, but is the only way to go. Although there is more and more women that take the role of the “pursuer”, the most of the girls expect that the guy have to be the pursuer.

Great article thanks.