A single’s frustration
When you’re single, you tend to go through a large range of emotions. Sometimes, it’s great to be single, spending time with friends and doing whatever you want. Other times, being single is miserable, lonely, and depressing…you’re tired of being single. Somewhere along the way, frustration creeps into the picture. This is usually after failed attempts to date and change your single status. And I, giver of dating advice and theories, am not immune to that.
Last night I had a realization: I haven’t had a date this year. Since the calendar changed to read 2008, I have not been on a single date. Not one. It’s now halfway through August, eight months into the year (four months left!), and I haven’t had a date. It’s hard not to get frustrated about that. Nevermind that not having been on a date also means not having kissed someone this year and not having had any sex this year…
My lackluster dating life isn’t because I haven’t tried. I asked a girl out in January, the girl who managed to get completely under my skin, and she said no. I held my breath hoping she’d change her mind, but alas, it never happened. Then there was the random meetup at the super market. We agreed to meet up but she bailed and gave me the, “I’m sorry, I’m busy from now til forever” excuse. And then, a girl that I met at a party who gave me her number and then proceeded to never call me back (even though a friend-in-common told me that I might actually get a call back…gee, how kind of her).
Now, I have a reasonable opinion of myself. I know I’m certainly not the most perfect guy in the world, but I do know that I have a lot to offer. I think that I present myself well and I know that I don’t have body odor. A good friend of mine has told me she has many friends for whom she knows exactly why they’re single, but for me, she has no idea. That’s a double helping of frustration.
I’ve been around the dating block enough times to know that there’s peaks and valleys. This period will undoubtedly come to an end at some point in time, but for the time being, frustration reigns supreme.
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I should add that comment to the “7 Things You Never Say to Your Single Friends” post - I don’t get why you are still single!! I love it.
Sorry to hear you are frustrated. Dating does indeed have its highs and lows. And just like any low, this low will pass.