Love me for my body

Posted by Zack Taylor
on August 26, 2008

Before I moved to the Bay Area, I had an extremely attractive female friend. She was 6′0″ tall, long blonde hair, incredible body, and Dutch. I’ll admit that when I first me her, my first instinct was to hit on her. I’m a normal guy so, you know, it’s probably to be expected. One night we were talking when she revealed that she had a lot of trouble dating. Because of her looks, she said, she was constantly being approach by all kinds of creepy guys. She went on to say that the nice ones stayed away because the creeps were always hanging around, trying to get her attention. Consequently, she hadn’t dated for a while, and the last guy she dated really just wanted her for her body.

For people like her, those blessed with ungodly physical beauty, being surrounded by attention purely based on their appearance is an everyday occurrance. Those of us with average looks will snidely say, “oh yeah, I feel so bad for you, poor beautiful person,” but in reality, the nice beautiful people really do have it tough. They always say they want someone who loves them for their mind, but that’s just because everyone always wants them for their body.

In reality, we all want to be desired for our bodies. Every one of us, men and women, want to be desirable to others. Yes, it’s nice to be loved and appreciated for my personality, but there’s nothing that tops being checked out by a girl. Or by a guy (hey, I’m not that picky). Think of the last time someone pointed out to you that you were getting looks from someone. I bet it put a smile on your face and maybe even made you want to talk to the person. After all, he or she clearly has good taste, right?

Every single one of us wants to be thought of as beautiful to someone. Let’s face it, we don’t dress nicely purely to feel good about ourselves; we dress nicely so that other people will notice. Being desirable is something we feed off of and need. I remember one of my girlfriends commenting one night as we were preparing to go out, “damn, I forgot you cleaned up so well.” That pretty much made my night. It really didn’t matter what else happened, my girlfriend has just reaffirmed that she found me desirable and that was enough to make me happy.

Even the truly beautiful people need this as well. You can’t approach models talking about their looks; it has no value to them unless you’re offering a job. But I can guarantee that they have the exact same need to be desired. If a model’s partner didn’t find her desirable, she’d be heartbroken as well.

We all want that someone special to want us, to find us attractive, to desire us. So, go ahead, love me for my body, my looks, my appearance. Hopefully, I’ll feel the same way about you.

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