Comments on: Pursuit theory: The girl’s role

By: Wing Girl Kim

Wing Girl Kim — Sun, 15 May 2011 15:24:48 +0000

CJ, He doesn’t want a commitment. Leave him alone and take care yourself inside. -Wing Girl Kim

By: Vashti

Vashti — Wed, 11 May 2011 11:29:17 +0000

I agree whole heartedly! I am a more dominant personality so I am usually doing most of the chasing and its really not a good thing. I think it should be left up to men to do it. I really does work! Thanks for sharing

By: CJ

CJ — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 22:50:04 +0000

Hi Zack,

There’s this guy who kept chasing me for about three weeks. He did mention on our first meet up that he didn’t want a commitment. I was fine with that.

After the first meet up, he kept texting and calling me and we went out several times.

And then one day, he slowly pulled away. We still communicate, but not that often.

It went on like that for a couple of weeks. And then a friend told me to make my move. Do you think this is the right thing to do? He is single and I I like him a lot.

By: unknown

unknown — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 10:15:07 +0000

Thanks for sharing your ideas and i love your articles.

Cheers!

By: Pursuit Theory: The first phone call | Dating advice, tips and experiences | Dating blogs & forums

Sat, 04 Apr 2009 01:18:21 +0000

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By: Miss Shell

Miss Shell — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 05:17:06 +0000

I’ve been a part of this “game” and I’ve watched it happen to myself and friends for the better part of the last decade. This game is disgusting and it never goes anywhere. It’s too hard to play and not worth it. If you have to work this hard to get a date then the date isn’t worth it.

By: Zack Taylor

Zack Taylor — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 02:06:34 +0000

I think you’re looking at this the wrong way. Dating is a game, it’s supposed to be fun! All I’m doing is laying out the rules so that everyone knows what they are. My writing and thoughts on this matter are anything but arbitrary; I’ve spent years observing and participating in the dating game to come up with this theory. I agree that it would be nice if everyone would just ask out people that they’re attracted to, but unfortunately, subtlety often works much better.

By: Robert Lahoya

Robert Lahoya — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 05:27:22 +0000

this is what girls do and it is not a good thing.
who has time for these mindgames?
i’ve come across my share of girls who act this way and there is nothing cute about it. Mindgames only get in the way of meaningful relationships.
And there is no reason that women should be pursued vs pursue.
The author of this article made an arbitrary decision,
which just so happens to go with one of the lesser social currents of our time.
if you are interested in having a healthy relationship, then quit the mindgames.
If you like someone, ask them on a date.
It’s as simple as that.

By: Miss

Miss — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:33:55 +0000

This is so true! Funny that I am already doing this?! I have some guy friends who gets me really confuse… like they text a lot, try to chat a lot and even stay up late with me?! I don’t get it if guys are being friendly or what. I am really slow with this and don’t get hints because it’s like for me, many guys are players so whatever comes out on their mouth goes out on my ear. Still, I am trying to be nice ’cause hey I can’t avoid people, how can I have friends that way.

Anyhoo, This particular guy… One day things are fun and friendly and the next day he will try to talk sweet stuff and starts getting weird? Sometimes I think he likes me but then sometimes he also talk about other girls he pursue? Just wtf is happening?! Why are guys like this?!

When you like someone JUST SAY IT! It’s no fun when a friend starts acting like that… So when that happens, girls like me will back away! And just when you can actually breathe some fresh air and the question marks starts to disappear, expect the guy chasing you again! This is sad you know? Since this is your friend, suddenly you’ll feel he’s trying to avoid you so of course you’ll miss him and then you’ll do the ‘chasing’ then you’ll be friends again… then the cycle continues!

Should I try to keep that kind of friendship? Is this even friendship or just complete flirting? Is it worth keeping? I think I can move on but I just don’t wanna leave people around suddenly for some reason I’m not even sure of.

I feel sorry for myself and these guys because I am not ready to actually go out and date if that’s what they want. I think I need help? I feel ridiculous going out with someone I barely know but I feel awkward when a friend starts getting sweet. I have a heart like a child.

Sorry I said too much! I’m also trying to figure things out while writing and sharing. I like your posts!