When I ask you out
When I ask you out, it’s because there’s something about you that I find attractive. It may be your sense of style, it may be your personality, but there’s just something that has inspired me to get to know you better. And that’s the purpose of asking you out: to get to know you better.
When I ask you out, I’m not thinking about ways to get you into bed. I want to figure out who you are; I want you to figure out who I am. To me, a date is an evaluation period. Let’s see if we enjoy being around each other. Let’s see if we have interesting conversation. Let’s see if there’s any chemistry whatsoever and not worry about what comes next.
When I ask you out, I have a simple evening planned. A nice dinner at a quiet restaurant where we can talk and get to know each other better. Hopefully the restaurant is in a nice area where we can go for a walk afterward. I’m not trying to get you to fall in love with me, I just want the opportunity to see if we’re compatible…if there’s even a reason to consider a second date.
When I ask you out, I’m not asking you to marry me, or go away with me, or come back to my place. This is not a commitment or an invitation into something torrid. The only thing I want is some alone time to see what happens. I want to see how it feels when it’s just you and me and time. There’s no hidden motives and nothing for you to be weary of. It is exactly what it appears to be: two people enjoying dinner and sharing conversation. That’s it.
When I ask you out, it means I think there may be potential between us, but I’m not sure. I need to get to know you better before making that determination. And the only way to do that is to spend some time alone with you. I haven’t actually made up my mind that I want to pursue a relationship with you, so please don’t feel that sort of pressure. There’s nothing to live up to.
When I ask you out, I’m trying to see if you’d fit into my life. I’m evaluating you to see if I can picture you having a more permanent spot in my routine. I hope that you’re doing the same thing with me, figuring out if I’m someone you’d want to spend more time with. Would you get along with my friends and family? Would I get along with yours? We both should take this date as an opportunity to answer those questions.
When I ask you out, I’m inviting you to take the first step of a journey with me. That journey is to discover if we’re compatible. If you’re even a little bit curious, then I hope you’ll accept my invitation.
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wow very nice written and pleasing to read. I like the following quote:
“If you’re even a little bit curious, then I hope you’ll accept my invitation”
Thanks