That said… JOSH ROCKS!

I’m serious, Josh! You’ve got great stuff underneath those fingertips of yours.

Wow, thanks for sharing. I’m flattered that you have thought that much about what I’ve said!

I was worried that he would flake-out-and-make-up again, which is why I asked if the later-this-week getaway had occurred. It appears that he flaked-out again. Yet, what he said has raised my estimation of him somewhat:

“I think we have a real shot at something real here. Make me a promise, ok? If you are upset with me over something I did or didn’t do, please just tell me so I can fix it. No games.”

THOSE are words to take to the bank. I said you should never take initiative, but once he says you should call, feel free to call. Call him whenever you want, as long as it is about something he should fix (don’t call him to chat). It’s not taking initiative, it’s operating within the boundaries he has allowed. Now obviously, common sense still applies – be tactful, don’t embarrass him, be woman-like – but he’s given you the green light, so go!

This guy is one of two things. He might be the genuine article, just a bit socially-retarded, as his friends say. In which case, he’ll appreciate the candor. Or, he’s a weasel who has realized that playing dumb is a get-out-of-jail-free card. In which case, calling him out will make him disappear, fast. Either way, you win: you get the genuine nice guy, or lose the slick player.

What makes me think he might be a slick player is the first part of what he said: “Serendipity, I know you were mad that I didn’t call last week, and that’s why you blew off our plans. I get it, ok?” If he GETS IT, then he should know to call! Again, being busy is not an excuse, not to spend five minutes to call a woman you’re crazy about. “Didn’t call last week” and “crazy about you” are absolutely incompatible.

It could be real, it could be a bluff. If he’s being real, great, if it’s a bluff, call the bluff. You’ll find out who he is, one way or the other.

PS. I still stick by what I said last time. Don’t trust your heart to him until he’s trustworthy. It’s about timing, but not because being coy and waiting-around is fun. It’s because sometimes men need some time to figure out how lucky they actually are, and you can’t force that. My girlfriend had the confidence to let me find out for myself how much she meant to me. It took a month. When I finally figured out what a prize she was, I chased after her. She didn’t surrender her affections immediately. I had to work, and prove that I was serious and committed. Then she let herself fall for me. That’s the timing I’m talking about. It’s about waiting for what you deserve.