Have you noticed that holidays have a way of influencing our dating behavior? If so, then you’ve experience the phenomenon I call, holidating. For example, we just rang in a new year and many of us have made resolutions that revolve around dating: date more, screen out psychos, end unfulfilling relationships, get into a serious relationship, and so on. Furthermore, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. There is added pressure about our dating status during this couple-centric holiday. Therefore, some people will stay in a sub-par relationship just to avoid being alone on February 14th. On the other hand, some single people may avoid dating around Cupid’s day because it may prematurely escalate the development of relationships. For instance, a single person may want to casually date or may not be sure if this person works better as a friend.
So what’s the answer? Take notice of your thoughts and feelings about the new year and Valentine’s Day. Becoming aware of how these holidays influence your dating behavior is a big step. With this awareness, you now have a choice of how you will let it affect you. The important thing to remember is that you always have choices. So I wish you luck in the upcoming weeks.