The new year’s resolution
Last year, I didn’t have a single date. Not a single one. 2008 was a completely dateless year for me, and that streak extended back to the summer of 2007 through right now. No dates. This year, 2009, I came to the realization that my dreams of marrying and having a family could not come true following this pattern. It’s just like any other goal: if you’re not achieving it, then it’s time to evaluate what you’ve been doing and optimize towards that goal. I can’t get married and have kids unless I’m dating (or have a lot of money to buy both), so this year has to be different.
My first step was to make a pact with myself. One of my new year’s resolutions was to approach every cute girl I see and talk to her. The only exceptions to this resolution are girls that I work with (for obvious reasons) and those sporting engagement/wedding rings (ditto). There really isn’t a reason for me to not talk to any cute girl I run into. I’m single, I want to meet her, why shouldn’t I just walk up and say hi?
So that’s what I’ve been doing. Any time I get that little knot in my stomach that indicates attraction, I approach the girl and introduce myself. Now, things don’t always work out…a couple of the girls I’ve approached had boyfriends…but I’m still much happier for having approached them then if I had just wondered. And you know what I discovered? It’s really not all that difficult at all.
Talking to girls gets easier the more often you do it, so I’ve been talking to as many as possible. The woman standing behind me in line at the super market; the girl walking my way in the mall; the random stranger at the party. Through this, I’ve rediscovered just how much I enjoy meeting new people and learning about them.
And the results? I have a date this week, possibly two. That’s right, it’s February and I already have a date, ensuring that 2009 will not be another dateless year. So if you’re a guy and you’ve been single for a while, make this pact with yourself: approach every cute girl you see. Don’t be a stalker, just start a nice conversation and see where it goes. And don’t take it personally if you don’t get her digits. It’s a numbers game, my friend, and the more girls you ask the more likely you are to succeed.
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Good luck Zack with this girl! and don’t forget to have fun