Comments on: I’m On a Break

By: Krystle

Krystle — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 23:28:18 +0000

I hear you, girl. I have been on one too goin on 4 months now and it feels so great. Altho i miss male company, i dont miss dating bc it was too much of the same and i was getting so fatigued and plus they were never the guys i wanted so i was just starting over again so much. Now im focuing on me, no guys, no dates, no sex and it wasnt as hard as i thought it would be. i just know what i want and all that datin was messing me up mentally and when i got fed up, i knew it was time to STOP and work on me, refresh myself so that when i do meet the next guy, im ready emotionally and more clear on what i want.

By: Suzie

Suzie — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:53:43 +0000

You say you are not bitter with your love life, but it sure sounds like you are. I think taking breaks every once in a while is fine, as long as you are taking it for the right reasons. Honestly, it sounds to me like you could be taking a break because you can’t deal with the natural ups and downs of dating. And a sure fire recipe NOT to meet that special someone is being on a long term break. Won’t that just add to your stress, knowing that you are not dating and therefore your chances of meeting a great guy are next to nil?

I don’t mean to sound harsh. I am just trying to help. Best of luck to you.

By: Cherie

Cherie — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 22:23:45 +0000

Taking a break from dating! Been there… I can relate. I also used to be “the one singleton” who would share my HILARIOUS (at least I tried to make them that way) dating stories with my married girlfriends, many of whom met their significant others in high school. I now take comfort in the power of small, I gradually distanced myself from people I didn’t think were good friends, focused on myself, and stopped working night and day. That last one may have done the trick alone, who knows. I like to think it all had an effect.

By: GTR

GTR — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 11:07:28 +0000

I have been taking a break too! It has been one of the smarter things I have done with regard to my love life. It really is an irony of love and life. Sometimes taking your mind and efforts off of what you want is the easiest way to get it. For me, as a guy, taking a break from dating, has allowed me to meet people FIRST! Turning the radar off, has helped me relax, and just enjoy the company I keep, male or female. If I meet someone who piques my interest, I focus on getting to know them without going on dates. Maybe we have dinner, maybe meet for a drink, whatever the case, the pressure is off because IT’S NOT A DATE!!! Expectations are at a minimum, and we are free to be ourselves . . . . at least that’s what I’m hoping . . . I’ll let you know how it goes. At any rate, I think taking a break is a good thing, and so far, it has worked out well for me.

By: digeeU dating

digeeU dating — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 06:47:23 +0000

Women tend to psycho-analyze not only men but everything, it is part of our innate capability to process the world around us. I agree with your point that you have to avoid talking about men, and analyzing their every action, in order to have a clean break from dating. It is an addictive sport, and just like cigarettes and alcohol, abstinence may not be bliss, but it might be mandatory, for soul-searching, or just to have “you” time like you put it so plainly. To be able to find a deeper meaning in your next relationship.