Comments on: Pursuit Theory: The first phone call

By: Shana

Shana — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:06:59 +0000

This is terrible, terrible, awful advice. If someone called me twice in one day it would be a complete turnoff. Call her, leave a vm the FIRST time. If she doesn’t call you back, or at least TEXT you in acknowledgement, she is NOT into you. If a woman is interested, she will acknowledge your call in SOME WAY. If you want to try calling again in a couple of days, that is fine, but NEVER call her twice in one day. That is STALKERISH.

By: Donna

Donna — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 20:37:02 +0000

Hi Zack, I wanted to let you know first of all that I truly enjoyed reading your blogs. It is very refreshing to hear the men’s point of view about dating.
I have meet someone online on a social networking website, but not a dating website. He was te one who initiated the contact with me and since then there have been emails back and forth for a while. He asked me for my phone number. All the while I did not any expectations from him, nor I really was that much interested.
He asked me what day and time he can call.
The day that he said he would call, I was not at home. I actually was not really thrilled and waiting for his phone call. Another week went by and we were back and forth in emails which was kind of indicator to me that he might be playful and not looking for a relationsihp, otherwise he would find another day and time to call. I sent him an email and I told him that I am getting busy too and I think that this is not going anywhere anyway nor it has any depth and I wished him good luck. On that same day, when i cam home at night, I found a voice message from him onmy answering machine saying that he just realized that “we need to improve our discussions” he also said “I will call you later ontonight or tomorrow or you can call me at…”
I did neither call nor email him. Next day I received an email from him asking if there is any chance to chat in one of these days?”. I responded to him that I got his v.message and that the phone conversation would have to be during the weekend if he might like to try then.

I wonder what your feedback about this guy?.
I want to know that he is serious about his efforts to get to know me, and that he’s worth my efforts and time if I would show interest or call him.

Should I call him at this point? what if he did not call again? should I just move on.

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By: Stu

Stu — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 18:56:38 +0000

Zack, excellent post. Summarized the cookie cutter scenario perfectly. Let me pose a specific scenario:

Met a girl from a different city who is planning to move to my town, spoke for over an hour, great dialogue, got her number – at which point in time she revealed that she has a current boyfriend, but that with her move the relationship will be ended or at least put on hold – so she is moving here in exactly one month. How do I keep in touch – still being sensitive to her current situation (in a relationship) – so that in a month I’ll be in the picture for when she moves here?

By: jamesgreave

jamesgreave — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 04:27:27 +0000

hi Zack!

That’s really a great post. Well, i need some other suggestions from u as your posting is helping for some reason, but once you were with a girl in dating, how should i be with her. The do’s and the don’ts . Can u list me up.

By: Zack Taylor

Zack Taylor — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 01:15:50 +0000

Tristan – reality check, you don’t know what she’s thinking, feeling, or what she will think or feel in the future. Don’t ascribe your fears onto her. If you really want to know how she feels about you, then cowboy up and invite her out for some one-on-one time. If she turns you down, at least you know for sure. Then you can decide what “play it cool” means for you.

By: Tristan

Tristan — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 12:11:51 +0000

Great post Zack. Now, let me throw another wrinkle at you . . . I got a number from a woman in a group that meets several times a week. Turns out that she pulled the “giving you my number even though I’m not interested.” Or at least it seems that way. I’ve called, she’s returned the call . . . most of the time. Anyway, the bottom line seems to be, she’s just not that interested, Cool. However, I feels she’s left everything in limbo, and we keep running into each other. What do I do?

I feel like if I avoid her I’m letting her know that the situation bothers me. If I approach her, she thinks I’m going to ask again . . . making things more uncomfortable. I can play it cool, hell, I can play it anyway I need to, but what does “play it cool” in this situation mean, exactly. Looking for any insight here. Thanks everyone!