Comments on: What Means the World To You? http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/05/05/what-means-the-world-to-you/ Dating advice, tips and experiences | Dating blogs & forums Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:16:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: idate2009 http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/05/05/what-means-the-world-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-978 idate2009 Thu, 07 May 2009 21:31:41 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1053#comment-978 Hey Kristine! I'm kind of new to the whole on-line dating world too (I checked out Match, but decided to go with People2People.com instead), and I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I'm still reminding myself that I need to focus more on what the people say about themselves in their profiles, and not read so much into those pre-packaged question-and-answer bullet-points. I look forward to reading more of your posts, and here's hoping you find your love! Hey Kristine! I’m kind of new to the whole on-line dating world too (I checked out Match, but decided to go with People2People.com instead), and I can relate to a lot of what you’re saying. I’m still reminding myself that I need to focus more on what the people say about themselves in their profiles, and not read so much into those pre-packaged question-and-answer bullet-points.

I look forward to reading more of your posts, and here’s hoping you find your love!

]]> By: bobalina77 http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/05/05/what-means-the-world-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-971 bobalina77 Tue, 05 May 2009 23:59:23 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1053#comment-971 My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me about a month ago.. we had a great relationship.. or so I thought. I am a big picture person.. if I can say that 90% of the time I'm happy in a relationship that's really all that matters to me. I loved him (actually still do unfortunately grr).. and it's a real honest to goodness unconditional love. Everyone has their issues and it's really just a matter of whether you can live with those issues or not. He, unfortunately, is a details person. So instead of looking at the overall quality of our relationship he would break it down and focus on the negatives (of which there really weren't very many) and when you focus on the negative you lose sight of the many positives. I had coffee with one of his friends yesterday and it was very interesting. She said she told him that she thought he was making a mistake breaking up with me and that he was gonna regret it in the end. She said she's never seen him as happy as when he was with me and that she was shocked when he told her he ended it because every time she asked how things were going he'd say "great!". I guess what it shows is that if you spend a lot of time dissecting things you're bound to find *something* wrong.. so I think your theology teacher is right. You're not gonna find someone who has everything little thing that you want.. but if you can find someone who's big picture makes you happy that's really all you can ask for. If you're constantly looking for flaws in a piece of art you lose what makes it beautiful. That's kind of how I feel about relationships. My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me about a month ago.. we had a great relationship.. or so I thought. I am a big picture person.. if I can say that 90% of the time I’m happy in a relationship that’s really all that matters to me. I loved him (actually still do unfortunately grr).. and it’s a real honest to goodness unconditional love. Everyone has their issues and it’s really just a matter of whether you can live with those issues or not.

He, unfortunately, is a details person. So instead of looking at the overall quality of our relationship he would break it down and focus on the negatives (of which there really weren’t very many) and when you focus on the negative you lose sight of the many positives. I had coffee with one of his friends yesterday and it was very interesting. She said she told him that she thought he was making a mistake breaking up with me and that he was gonna regret it in the end. She said she’s never seen him as happy as when he was with me and that she was shocked when he told her he ended it because every time she asked how things were going he’d say “great!”.

I guess what it shows is that if you spend a lot of time dissecting things you’re bound to find *something* wrong.. so I think your theology teacher is right. You’re not gonna find someone who has everything little thing that you want.. but if you can find someone who’s big picture makes you happy that’s really all you can ask for.

If you’re constantly looking for flaws in a piece of art you lose what makes it beautiful. That’s kind of how I feel about relationships.

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