Comments on: The direct approach http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/ Dating advice, tips and experiences | Dating blogs & forums Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:16:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jay http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1528 Jay Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:18:39 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1528 The direct approach is great if you already feel socially confident with women in general and don't really care to much about her she will respond to, "I think your really cute and i wanted to meet you". Unless your not use to giving compliments or talking to beautiful women for that matter, your best bet would be to use an indirect opener, such as an opinion opener which she is more likely to respond favourably to. Why would you display your interest in a girl because she looks good. Think "James Bond", he gets all the girls he wants not because he compliments them but because he displays his interest in an indirect way. I The direct approach is great if you already feel socially confident with women in general and don’t really care to much about her she will respond to, “I think your really cute and i wanted to meet you”. Unless your not use to giving compliments or talking to beautiful women for that matter, your best bet would be to use an indirect opener, such as an opinion opener which she is more likely to respond favourably to. Why would you display your interest in a girl because she looks good. Think “James Bond”, he gets all the girls he wants not because he compliments them but because he displays his interest in an indirect way.

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]]> By: Jean http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1442 Jean Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:17:43 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1442 I agree with Coche. When you walk up to a woman she knows what you're about. Trying to hide it doesn't do you any good. I don't necessarily compliment girls explicitly when I first meet them. I believe the fact that I walked up to them is a big compliment in itself. I just go on and start a friendly conversation. If she is game,great otherwise... well I don't even knowher so I can't say I lost anything. I don't like using "indirect tactics" because then I feel like I have hide something about myself. You have to be proud of who you are and if the girl you meet doesn't appreciate it, there is another one who will! I agree with Coche. When you walk up to a woman she knows what you’re about.
Trying to hide it doesn’t do you any good. I don’t necessarily compliment girls explicitly when I first meet them.
I believe the fact that I walked up to them is a big compliment in itself.
I just go on and start a friendly conversation. If she is game,great otherwise… well I don’t even knowher so I can’t say I lost anything.
I don’t like using “indirect tactics” because then I feel like I have hide something about myself.
You have to be proud of who you are and if the girl you meet doesn’t appreciate it, there is another one who will!

]]> By: Aiden Sabine http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1284 Aiden Sabine Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:32:12 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1284 That's why it may be better to approach it from the perspective of meeting people vice meeting potential mates or lovers. Makes for easier, more natural, flow. That’s why it may be better to approach it from the perspective of meeting people vice meeting potential mates or lovers. Makes for easier, more natural, flow.

]]> By: Adrienne http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1279 Adrienne Fri, 21 Aug 2009 00:07:10 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1279 Hmm.. its a tricky one really, from my experience its difficult for a guy who is merely paying you a compliment to sound genuine without giving the impression he just wants to get into your knickers!! To be totally honest if a guy came up to me and started throwing loads of compliments at me I would think he was a bit creepy and I'd walk away.. If I was in a bar or club and a guy came over to me I would be more interested in him if he talked about the music that was playing or what the beer was like rather than being bombarded with compliments. Sorry to be brutal but body language says a lot, after "hello" you will know if she's intersted or not!!!. Hmm.. its a tricky one really, from my experience its difficult for a guy who is merely paying you a compliment to sound genuine without giving the impression he just wants to get into your knickers!! To be totally honest if a guy came up to me and started throwing loads of compliments at me I would think he was a bit creepy and I’d walk away.. If I was in a bar or club and a guy came over to me I would be more interested in him if he talked about the music that was playing or what the beer was like rather than being bombarded with compliments. Sorry to be brutal but body language says a lot, after “hello” you will know if she’s intersted or not!!!.

]]> By: Josh http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1272 Josh Wed, 19 Aug 2009 03:29:16 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1272 I agree totally. Direct is best. Some guys confuse "desperate" with "direct", which is the source of many problems. Being direct means expressing your intentions clearly. This doesn't mean you get a free pass on everything else - you still have to be tactful, confident, and charming. I agree totally. Direct is best.

Some guys confuse “desperate” with “direct”, which is the source of many problems. Being direct means expressing your intentions clearly. This doesn’t mean you get a free pass on everything else – you still have to be tactful, confident, and charming.

]]> By: Kim http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1263 Kim Tue, 18 Aug 2009 01:25:49 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1263 My advise as a woman is to keep it simple and be sincere. Don't get too worried of what she is going to say back. If you have good intentions towards the woman and made a sincere attempt to approach her, it will reach her and she would pick up on it. My advise as a woman is to keep it simple and be sincere. Don’t get too worried of what she is going to say back. If you have good intentions towards the woman and made a sincere attempt to approach her, it will reach her and she would pick up on it.

]]> By: Aiden Sabine http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1261 Aiden Sabine Mon, 17 Aug 2009 21:25:31 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1261 Most people worry about the beginning of the conversation, where a sincere greeting and confident approach is usually all it takes to get things started. If anything, people should consider worrying about everything else and the finish: being able to improvise whenever something changes or arises, injecting as needed, asking the right questions,being flexible/down for whatever, and being able to read when to redirect something or close the deal. These aren't things you can worry about before that moment: you have to constantly practice it. Heck, it's an essential skill for more than just pickups. . . period. Most people worry about the beginning of the conversation, where a sincere greeting and confident approach is usually all it takes to get things started. If anything, people should consider worrying about everything else and the finish: being able to improvise whenever something changes or arises, injecting as needed, asking the right questions,being flexible/down for whatever, and being able to read when to redirect something or close the deal. These aren’t things you can worry about before that moment: you have to constantly practice it. Heck, it’s an essential skill for more than just pickups. . . period.

]]> By: Melanie http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1260 Melanie Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:01:03 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1260 Good call!! I much prefer the direct approach and am always happy to talk to anyone who approaches me (at least for a while). Making your intentions clear up front also minimises the risk of you inadvertently falling into the "friend zone"... Good call!! I much prefer the direct approach and am always happy to talk to anyone who approaches me (at least for a while). Making your intentions clear up front also minimises the risk of you inadvertently falling into the “friend zone”…

]]> By: Coche http://www.datingthoughts.com/2009/08/15/the-direct-approach/comment-page-1/#comment-1259 Coche Sun, 16 Aug 2009 03:47:24 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1114#comment-1259 Yes I think the direct approach is a better idea, because although you use a different approach, some girls know in advance what are you trying to say. Great article! Yes I think the direct approach is a better idea, because although you use a different approach, some girls know in advance what are you trying to say.

Great article!

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