Comments on: The suddenness of love http://www.datingthoughts.com/2010/01/30/the-suddenness-of-love/ Dating advice, tips and experiences | Dating blogs & forums Fri, 03 Feb 2012 04:36:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Emily http://www.datingthoughts.com/2010/01/30/the-suddenness-of-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6960 Emily Thu, 05 Aug 2010 23:45:45 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1192#comment-6960 I have to disagree with you on this particular post about love being sudden. I believe it's quite the opposite. Love is a buildup of getting to know the other person's true character, which more often than not, takes a considerable amount of time to achieve. Most people present the best facets of their personality upfront. When we first date someone new, we're on our best behavior right? And that euphoria of someone new in your life mixed in with intense sexual attraction is outright addictive. To get past the initial parts of dating, then you'll need to build the relationship which takes a lot time and effort. In my mind, love is when you've witnessed another person's most ugliest state, the things that make this person tick, their insecurities, etc, that you can then truly accept them for who they are and say with honesty that you truly love this person. My parents have been married for more than 30 years, I seen nasty fights, and some so bad that my mom looked into getting a divorce lawyer because she thought she couldn't stand another argument. But they're still a couple, and I'm proud to say they're a happily married couple. And I think many people nowadays need to realize that nurturing those relationships and marriages take a lot of work than the bull hollywood tries to sell to us. I firmly believe that successful relationships and marriages are due to the couples' resolve to work on themselves and the relationship, building a strong foundation for trust and love. Unfortunately it does not happen overnight, but fortunately for us it does not collapse overnight either. I have to disagree with you on this particular post about love being sudden. I believe it’s quite the opposite. Love is a buildup of getting to know the other person’s true character, which more often than not, takes a considerable amount of time to achieve. Most people present the best facets of their personality upfront. When we first date someone new, we’re on our best behavior right? And that euphoria of someone new in your life mixed in with intense sexual attraction is outright addictive. To get past the initial parts of dating, then you’ll need to build the relationship which takes a lot time and effort. In my mind, love is when you’ve witnessed another person’s most ugliest state, the things that make this person tick, their insecurities, etc, that you can then truly accept them for who they are and say with honesty that you truly love this person. My parents have been married for more than 30 years, I seen nasty fights, and some so bad that my mom looked into getting a divorce lawyer because she thought she couldn’t stand another argument. But they’re still a couple, and I’m proud to say they’re a happily married couple. And I think many people nowadays need to realize that nurturing those relationships and marriages take a lot of work than the bull hollywood tries to sell to us. I firmly believe that successful relationships and marriages are due to the couples’ resolve to work on themselves and the relationship, building a strong foundation for trust and love. Unfortunately it does not happen overnight, but fortunately for us it does not collapse overnight either.

]]> By: Wendy Morrow http://www.datingthoughts.com/2010/01/30/the-suddenness-of-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6937 Wendy Morrow Wed, 04 Aug 2010 21:24:25 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1192#comment-6937 ooops -- the convo that you quoted at the tail end of your blog .... Girl: Have I seen you before? Tom: Me? I don’t think so. Girl: Do you ever go to Angela’s Plaza? Tom: Yes… That’s like my favorite spot in the city. Girl: Yeah, except for the parking lots. Tom: Yeah, yeah I agree. Girl: Yeah, yeah I think I’ve seen you there. Tom: Really? Girl: Yeah… Tom: I haven’t seen you? Girl: You must not have been looking… the [[GIRL]] is actuall Autumn ... that is her name in the movie ... hence me saying the 500 days of Autumn .... which brings up another good point ... she had noticed him yet he didn't notice her... the right person could very well be under our nose but if we are focused on the wrong thing we don't notice!! sooo glad dating is so easy!! lol. ooops — the convo that you quoted at the tail end of your blog ….

Girl: Have I seen you before?
Tom: Me? I don’t think so.
Girl: Do you ever go to Angela’s Plaza?
Tom: Yes… That’s like my favorite spot in the city.
Girl: Yeah, except for the parking lots.
Tom: Yeah, yeah I agree.
Girl: Yeah, yeah I think I’ve seen you there.
Tom: Really?
Girl: Yeah…
Tom: I haven’t seen you?
Girl: You must not have been looking…

the [[GIRL]] is actuall Autumn … that is her name in the movie … hence me saying the 500 days of Autumn ….

which brings up another good point … she had noticed him yet he didn’t notice her… the right person could very well be under our nose but if we are focused on the wrong thing we don’t notice!! sooo glad dating is so easy!! lol.

]]> By: Wendy Morrow http://www.datingthoughts.com/2010/01/30/the-suddenness-of-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6936 Wendy Morrow Wed, 04 Aug 2010 21:19:52 +0000 http://www.datingthoughts.com/?p=1192#comment-6936 i LOVED this movie, actually just watched it (i heart Netflix!)… i think that Summer was right-on the whole time she dated Tom, she was always up front with the relationship status or lack thereof… the reason why we want to hate her (maybe even say she lied to him) is because we wanted the couple to fall madly in love so stinkin bad!! BUT if he would have stayed with her then the whole 500 days of Autumn would never started, which I think everyone will agree is a woman well suited for our beloved Mr. Tom…. i LOVED this movie, actually just watched it (i heart Netflix!)… i think that Summer was right-on the whole time she dated Tom, she was always up front with the relationship status or lack thereof… the reason why we want to hate her (maybe even say she lied to him) is because we wanted the couple to fall madly in love so stinkin bad!! BUT if he would have stayed with her then the whole 500 days of Autumn would never started, which I think everyone will agree is a woman well suited for our beloved Mr. Tom….

]]>