Thanks very much for the advice. As it happens, I met someone else last week, and think I’m going to see where this goes. He approached me, and clearly it worked well!

Thanks again for the help.

Jayne

There is great debate on whether or not women can take the reigns and approach the man to get things started, and some men will tell you that they like it when women approach them. Ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer. It really is up to you, but if you don’t feel comfortable approaching then you shouldn’t because it will be obvious. As a guy, do I like it when women approach? Of course, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best way to get something going, in fact, for me, it’s the best way to insure that I WON’T go out with you.

Jayne, my advice, is get in front of him, smile, and make eye contact a couple of times. If he won’t talk to you after a couple of smiles with eye contact, he’s either not interested or, frankly, stupid. Either way, do you really want to persue a guy like that? The uber-wisdom on approaching is understanding that there are lots of people to approach, so don’t get hung up on that one guy because there’s plenty of fish in the sea.

Cheers.

To Aiden I would say that I half agree if you to have confidence to “go get em” you will probably be the “nice guy” who gets ignored and doesn’t get the girl, as all the girls see him as just a friend.

HOWEVER, like the original blog said, if you are too desperate and just go around hitting on girls you will get nowhere long term. Most people meet someone through friends, and if you be friendly and make friends with people and just meet people in general this can work as well.

Overall I would say – don’t be the desperate guy hitting on everything with a pulse, but don’t be backwards about coming forward either!