Dear Relatively New Boyfriend,

I don’t know how to say this kindly: You stress me out.

It doesn’t bother me that you have a blue collar job, or that you don’t make a lot of money. One doesn’t need much money to have fun and live responsibly. What bothers me is that you spend more than you make, and then complain that you’re broke.

It’s very attractive that you know how to fix things, and I like when you take charge and make decisions about what we are doing for the day. But when you whine about how your mother treats you, I’m completely turned off.

It’s great that we can share a common interest, but when the only thing you like to talk about is motorcycles, I’m beyond bored.

You are more intelligent than other guys I’ve dated, and because of this, I don’t mind that you’re in your 30s and haven’t graduated from college. In fact, I don’t really care if you have a college education at all. But don’t complain about the one class you are taking or how much school work you have to do. And especially don’t complain that you’re in school because of your ex-girlfriend.

It’s nice that you spend time with your friends, and it’s a relief to see that you have friends. But when you say you don’t have time to do your laundry, and then talk about the pot you smoked, it pisses me off that you expect me to travel an hour to you when I have three jobs and have to use weekends to get my work done.

Most of all, though you are doing what you think is everything you can do to better your life, the fact that you have mostly negative things to say makes me think it’s your attitude that needs to be better rather than your life.

In short, I’m writing this to let you know that I am no longer your girlfriend, because I refuse to subject myself to your pessimism. Desire for a better life I can live with, but failure to see why your life isn’t better, inexcusable.

Enjoy your uncharmed life.

5 thoughts on “Dear Relatively New Boyfriend,”

  1. I hope you told him this in person rather than cowardly posted it on the net for all to read. In fact, I think it is pretty shitty you being the supposed ‘expert’ in dating and not knowing how to properly break up. Shameful!

  2. LOL. I would not break up with a guy over this type of forum. That would be horrible. So are text message breakups, even worse. No, no. Anyway, we’re still friends. We both agree we are better off as friends than in a romantic relationship.

  3. Friends??? You have got to be kidding! I don’t know what your description of a friend is, but if someone posted about me what you have posted about this now ex boyfriend I certainly would not consider you a friend. You obviously have no concept of what the word ‘friend’ really means and after seeing and hearing some of your other mutterings it becomes apparent how out of touch with reality you are. Maybe a trip on that bike of yours to places where real people live would do you some good.

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