About Serendipity
Late-thirties and passionate about, well, everything. Some get fooled by the vivacious demeanor and hilarious dating stories, but at the heart of it I'm a hopeless romantic, idealistic and optimistic if just a tad unconventional. I believe love is expressed physically, emotionally and spiritually, and The One is a clichéd marketing gimmick that prevents us from seeing the reality of our relationships in real-time. Dynamics between men and women fascinate me, and I must admit… I still enjoy the game and the chase. Years ago I married and divorced a "nice guy" now known as The Defendant. So it's Round 2 for me, and dating is significantly more challenging - and rewarding - than in my 20's. serendipity@datingthoughts.com
Posts From Serendipity:
I Got Fluffed
Patience or denial? Um, that would be denial. I got fluffed. Played like a banjo.
I saved a low-level of optimism that that Sunday’s tentative wine-tasting date with Mr. Perfect would come together. After all, his efforts of pursuit had increased after Wednesday’s date, so there was hope he was “getting it”. On the flip [...]
Patience or Denial?
After the Sunset I read Sara and Josh’s comments at least five times. “You can’t rush a relationship anymore than you can rush (flowers growing).” True that, my online friend.
I’ll admit though, patience is not my strong suit. I don’t have a timetable or agenda, but I also don’t want to waste my time. [...]
After the Sunset
He starts driving to the restaurant. At the first stop sign, he turns to me, smiles, and says, “I forgot how beautiful you are.” I smile. He says, “I have to ask you, why did you think I had lost interest? That comment really surprised me.”
“Are you kidding? Normally, if over a week goes by [...]
Waiting for the call
Thanks to everyone who posted a comment on The Perfect Date, I’m so relieved to know I’m not the only one who has felt anxiety (instead of just pure bliss) when things go well!
So although I knew it was unlikely to see him again before 2009, I have to say this waiting is making me [...]
The Perfect Date
I’m afraid to even write this blog, as this date was too perfect, and usually that’s a red flag. Oh well, I think we can all use some good news, and quite frankly, this date was a breath of fresh air I needed desperately.
We met for drinks on a Sunday night – conversation was effortless, [...]
Land of the Misfit Toys
My married friends ask, “Hey, how is the dating thing going?”
My reply is stolen from a remark at a cocktail party, but I love it, and use it: “Oh, it’s like living in the Land of the Misfit Toys!” Everyone laughs, but I look for the few who have that knowing smile, for they are [...]
The Temporary Girlfriend
As it should happen, the day after I posted a comment on busting the BUDDY system, one of my closest guy friends gave me a call – or more like, called me to the mat Apparently it had not gone unnoticed that I had started distancing myself from him and other mutual friends, and he [...]
Trying Something New
I’m trying online dating again, and somewhere between reading emails like, “Hey Kitten, ur sooo cute” and the next one, “I’m into erotic sex acts, so let me cut to the chase…” I thought, man, there has GOT to be a better way out of the single blues. In the same email queue, thankfully, was [...]
Let’s Dance
Damn it. Now I’m curious. Interested…in that way. I did NOT expect that. You queued up the music, and started the dance. And there I was, stepping on the dance floor as Chatty Cathy, thinking all we were doing was catching up, pleasantly surprised at how much we still had in common now in our [...]
The Singles Blues
I try to live life in vivid color, but my palette is missing red: “make your heart jump” red, “excited to see you” red, “huge smile across the room” red. The colors I live life in are blue (serenity, cool, calm) and yellow (happiness, joy, laughter). Nice colors. But without red, the portrait lacks [...]
