When Jack and Jill ran up the hill, Jill thought she could win Jack over by being a pill. She’d play coy, feign non-interest, and call him names. Then she broke his crown.
She did it all to woo Jack. And she’s not alone in using this strategy. Lots of women play hard to get when they want to entice the object of their affections. But is this strategy really effective?
The answer, according to the BBC, is: Not really.
Research suggest that playing hard to get doesn’t usually work. However, there is a theory that we tend to fancy people who are hard to get for everyone else, but easy for us to get.
Here’s how this was determined. In an online dating experiment, three women were given a number of matches. One woman eager wanted to meet all the guys she received. Another woman coolly refused all of her matches. A third woman was selective and only showed interest in one guy.
When shown this scenario, most men preferred the selective woman.
What’s that mean? The woman who plays easy to get: too loose. The woman who plays hard to get: too picky. The woman who’s hard to get for other guys, but easy to get for the guy she likes: juuust right.
So Jill, the next time you want to play hard to get, make sure you’re hard to get for other guys, but easy to get for Jack. Or else you’re going to end up with jack.