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Playing Hard to Get Won’t Get You Jack

When Jack and Jill ran up the hill, Jill thought she could win Jack over by being a pill. She’d play coy, feign non-interest, and call him names. Then she broke his crown.

She did it all to woo Jack. And she’s not alone in using this strategy. Lots of women play hard to get when they want to entice the object of their affections. But is this strategy really effective?

The answer, according to the BBC, is: Not really.

Research suggest that playing hard to get doesn’t usually work. However, there is a theory that we tend to fancy people who are hard to get for everyone else, but easy for us to get.

Here’s how this was determined. In an online dating experiment, three women were given a number of matches. One woman eager wanted to meet all the guys she received. Another woman coolly refused all of her matches. A third woman was selective and only showed interest in one guy.

When shown this scenario, most men preferred the selective woman.

What’s that mean? The woman who plays easy to get: too loose. The woman who plays hard to get: too picky. The woman who’s hard to get for other guys, but easy to get for the guy she likes: juuust right.

So Jill, the next time you want to play hard to get, make sure you’re hard to get for other guys, but easy to get for Jack. Or else you’re going to end up with jack.

Be a Man!

I am tired of the planning process for dating. Tired I tell you. Email flirting back and forth. More email flirting back and forth. Phone flirting. Text flirting. And that’s all before you meet face to face!

I need to sit down.

I endure all of this for the potential stomach butterfly on a first date. What I will not endure anymore, however, is a man that doesn’t plan. We women wear make-up, spend over $100 on push up bras, try on 15 different outfits and even shave our legs for a first date. As a man, all you have to do it plan. Pick a restaurant, pick a bar, pick a hiking trail. Just pick already and let us know.

I just traded my third email with a potential date on where we should meet, what time and what day. He is no longer, Mr. Potential Boyfriend or even Mr. Potential Anything. He has become an “TBD” in my outlook calendar – moving in a shuffle with the rest of the things I have to write down so I remember to pay attention to them. He is an outlook object.

Don’t be an object. Be a Man! Plan!