Dating Theories

How to stop missing someone

It tears at you, day and night. You hate being single. It’s that horrible feeling in your gut. It just won’t go away. You sometimes touch your stomach to make sure everything is still there. Physically, the pieces are in place, but that feeling makes it seem not to be true. It feels like…a hole. [...]


What’s Your Definition of Love?

It’s taken me years to learn that this is a question two people dating need to ask each other.  It’s taken me even longer to figure out my own answer. Based on my dating experience, I can probably tell you what it is not - it is not great sex, it is not passionate kisses [...]


Cheating is a Cop Out

Remember what we used to do kids who cheated on the playground?  We kicked their ass, and they were relegated to play by themselves for months.  You know why?  Because cheating is selfish, and as a tribal species, we know at the primal level, selfish is dangerous.  That’s why we set up rules.  Imagine if [...]


TOP FIVE

Chandler: Well, we have a deal where we each get to pick five different celebrities that we can sleep with, and the other one can’t get mad.
Ross: Ah, the heart of every healthy relationship: Honesty, respect, and sex with celebrities.
Monica: So, Chandler… who’s on your list?
Chandler: Uh, Kim Basinger, Cindy Crawford, Halle Berry, Yasmine [...]


Debunking “When Harry Met Sally . . . ”

Can men and women be platonic friends? Whenever I get into conversations on this topic, someone usually brings up the movie, When Harry Met Sally . . . (1998). This film is an icon for making a case that men and women cannot be platonic friends. The protagonist, Harry Burns argues,
men and women can’t be [...]


Dating failure feedback

Have you ever been turned down by someone and just wished that you could do a post-talk review to get feedback on what went wrong? If you’ve ever asked yourself why things didn’t work out, then you’ve probably had this thought. If only there were a way to understand what the other person thought, maybe [...]


Nice Guys: I Owe You an Apology

I’ve come to realize there is a special kind of Karma related to dating. I’m quite certain this Karma is manifested as a woman, and quite frankly, she’s a bitch.
So for all the nice guys out there, this one’s for you.
Remember the cheerleader in high school who wouldn’t give you the time of day? The [...]


Why can’t we commit?

It seems like a bad time to want a monogamous relationship. With about half of all marriages ending in divorce, the dream of falling in love, marrying, and living happily ever after might be more of a pipe dream. So what exactly is the problem? Why is it that centuries of monogamy has degraded to [...]


Passion: The Cure for Dating Apathy?

Breathlessly, we tango across the apartment. The destination may be a foregone conclusion, but we revel in the sexual tension anyway. I can actually feel us both smirking (in that sly, knowing way) as we kiss deeply. The urgency is bliss. After all, we are crossing the forbidden Friendship Line – again – an addiction [...]


Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others

John Molloy, the author of the book “Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others“, just penned an article of the same name on MSNBC.com.
So why do men marry some women, and not others? According to Molloy, the answer is pretty simple: he’s not the marrying kind.
He’s Just Not Ready Yet
Most (but not all) men [...]