Reflections
I am Stan
I’ve known Stan my whole life. He and my dad were friends in college and kept in touch afterwards. I don’t remember ever being formally introduced to Stan, I just remember him being around. My dad would invite him over to watch sports from time to time, and the two would spend the day chatting [...]
Issues? What issues?
When we’re single, we want a relationship. When we’re in a relationship–an incompatible one, that is–we want to be single. Never satisfied, it’s easy to miss what’s really wrong in the picture.
I’m what the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator would refer to as “Perceiving.” Basically, that means that I’m comfortable in a state of indecision. To those [...]
emotional REAL estate
Robyn just posted a recent sonogram as her FaceBook photo. I decide to ring her and we meet for an impromptu picnic in the park. Something we both have shirked since I left the firm we sold our souls for. It was high time for some herbal Honest Teas, huge hoagies from Saigon Sandwiches coupled [...]
The suddenness of love
Summer: “One day I woke up and I just knew.”
Tom: “Knew what?”
Summer: “What I was never sure of when I was with you.”
This heart-wrenching scene from the indy hit 500 Days of Summer truly delivers the crushing honesty of love: it is sudden, both in its arrival and its departure. We’re meant to feel sorry [...]
A Good Man is Not That Hard to Find
Reposted from GoodMenBook.org (November 18, 2009)
My mother used to pressure me to settle down. “Get married,” she pestered. In spite of this being the modern world and all, it’s still not as easy for a woman to get a husband as it is for a man to get a wife. And I [...]
Resolutions
As I sit in this coffee shop, I feel the ground shifting beneath my feet. No, unlike many of the writers on this blog, I don’t live on the west coast, so it’s not an earthquake.
It’s change, and a lot of it.
It’s all good change, and it’s really exciting change: there’s a new [...]
Sexting
Myself being a follower of proper work ethic, I once had an affair with my co-worker. Possessing the typical spine-tingling bravado attributed to all things generally looked down upon, this affair in nearly every way was stereotypical: Secret, awkward, and sexual. However, one basic difference separated this affair from your typical make-out-in-the-backroom-and-behind-closed-doors deal. This was [...]
What Means the World To You?
Diamond rings? Shiny things?
What means the world to you?
Religion? Sex? Politics?
What means the world to you?
Height, humor, honesty?
What means the world to you?
Ladies (Ho!) Fellas (Ow!)
After sifting through about a million different online profiles, I start to wonder if my standards are set too high. I’ve got an account on Match because [...]
TRUTH about cats & dogs
“It’s a given that all men are dogs. What differentiates each guy is how much dog is in him.”
I barely settle into my side of the cab and my college buddy starts barking his version of conventional dating wisdom at me.
“I suggest you tap into me to discern the purebreds from the strays in [...]
Waiting for the phone to ring
There are few circumstances more angst-invoking than waiting for the phone to ring. It’s the same whether you’re a guy or a girl: when you’re anticipating a call from someone you just met, there’s all kinds of nervousness going on. As each minute ticks by, you begin to wonder if maybe you read the situation [...]
