Reflections
The suddenness of love
Summer: “One day I woke up and I just knew.”
Tom: “Knew what?”
Summer: “What I was never sure of when I was with you.”
This heart-wrenching scene from the indy hit 500 Days of Summer truly delivers the crushing honesty of love: it is sudden, both in its arrival and its departure. We’re meant to feel sorry [...]
A Good Man is Not That Hard to Find
Reposted from GoodMenBook.org (November 18, 2009)
My mother used to pressure me to settle down. “Get married,” she pestered. In spite of this being the modern world and all, it’s still not as easy for a woman to get a husband as it is for a man to get a wife. And I [...]
Resolutions
As I sit in this coffee shop, I feel the ground shifting beneath my feet. No, unlike many of the writers on this blog, I don’t live on the west coast, so it’s not an earthquake.
It’s change, and a lot of it.
It’s all good change, and it’s really exciting change: there’s a new [...]
When Chemistry Isn’t Enough . . .
I have been seeing this woman for a month. Just last night, after what should have been a really romantic dinner, it became abundantly clear . . . She’s not for me.
The thing is, I adore her. She’s strong, beautiful on the inside and out, and honest. She’s true to herself and others. What could [...]
Sexting
Myself being a follower of proper work ethic, I once had an affair with my co-worker. Possessing the typical spine-tingling bravado attributed to all things generally looked down upon, this affair in nearly every way was stereotypical: Secret, awkward, and sexual. However, one basic difference separated this affair from your typical make-out-in-the-backroom-and-behind-closed-doors deal. This was [...]
What Means the World To You?
Diamond rings? Shiny things?
What means the world to you?
Religion? Sex? Politics?
What means the world to you?
Height, humor, honesty?
What means the world to you?
Ladies (Ho!) Fellas (Ow!)
After sifting through about a million different online profiles, I start to wonder if my standards are set too high. I’ve got an account on Match because [...]
Waiting for the phone to ring
There are few circumstances more angst-invoking than waiting for the phone to ring. It’s the same whether you’re a guy or a girl: when you’re anticipating a call from someone you just met, there’s all kinds of nervousness going on. As each minute ticks by, you begin to wonder if maybe you read the situation [...]
PUPPETS, PIRATES & ICE-CREAM… Oh my!
“So this guy points out all our differences on the date…” Eddie wants a full rundown on my latest-and-greatest dating adventure. I’m trying to convince him that this taking-it-slow mantra is just not working for me. It’s not my style. Right?
“Wait, this is your second date?” He’s got his big [...]
the POSSIBILITY of sex
“So you’re really back in the game, huh?” Eddie pushes the last piece of the mulberry tart towards me with his fork. I shrug. We’re both killing some time by grabbing a bite before heading out to a singles’-slash-benefit event in the Mission. I nudge the last bite towards him. [...]
The appeal of the hot one
At some point, we’ve all seen that other person that makes us stop and say, “wow.” Their sheer physical beauty is beyond what we could imagine and causes an immediate slip into a fantasy world where clothing is optional and you’re together. Men are most often accused of this because, quite frankly, we make it [...]
