Shared Experiences
Holidating, Part 1: New Year’s Resolution or Cupid’s Coercion?
Have you noticed that holidays have a way of influencing our dating behavior? If so, then you’ve experience the phenomenon I call, holidating. For example, we just rang in a new year and many of us have made resolutions that revolve around dating: date more, screen out psychos, end unfulfilling relationships, get into a serious [...]
Patience or Denial?
After the Sunset I read Sara and Josh’s comments at least five times. “You can’t rush a relationship anymore than you can rush (flowers growing).” True that, my online friend.
I’ll admit though, patience is not my strong suit. I don’t have a timetable or agenda, but I also don’t want to waste my time. [...]
Top 10 Posts of 2008
Happy 2009! I just woke up from a wicked New Year’s Eve hangover and figured it was time to take a look back at 2008.
And what a year it’s been. Last February 1st, we launched DatingThoughts.com with a handful of talented and single 30-something bloggers in the San Francisco Bay Area. Throughout the year, we [...]
If you love someone, let them go
For as long as I can remember, I’ve heard the phrase, “if you love someone, let them go.” I’ve spent inordinate amounts of time during my life trying to understand the meaning. In high school, I thought the concept was ludicrous. I love her, why the hell would I ever let her go? Adolescence, of [...]
Waiting for the call
Thanks to everyone who posted a comment on The Perfect Date, I’m so relieved to know I’m not the only one who has felt anxiety (instead of just pure bliss) when things go well!
So although I knew it was unlikely to see him again before 2009, I have to say this waiting is making me [...]
The Temporary Girlfriend
As it should happen, the day after I posted a comment on busting the BUDDY system, one of my closest guy friends gave me a call – or more like, called me to the mat Apparently it had not gone unnoticed that I had started distancing myself from him and other mutual friends, and he [...]
what FACEBOOK tells me
You’re an asshole.
Plain.
Not so simple.
In fact, you’re an insecure narcisist with no less than 50 uploaded profile photos of your various pouts and poses to prove it. You even catalogue your ex-girlfriends with captions below. Sexy.
I never knew FB was a vehicle for name dropping, til I perused your profile. So what if you’re some [...]
busting the BUDDY system
“Just so we’re clear, I’m not in the market for new guy friends.” I try to make eye-contact. I figure I’ve got nothing to hide, since my new motto is to live like I’ve got nothing to lose. “We’re either dating OR we’re not. There’s no friendship fallback at the end of this tunnel.”
“Huh?” Grant [...]
reBOUNDing
Mr. Write’s got this theory that I’m a reBOUND reWOUND addict.
He may be right.
See folks, Mr. Write constantly kicks my ass about how I have this nasty habit of hitting the rewind button when it comes to my dating life by reBOUNDing. It’s my coping mechanism. As in “coping” with my commitment-phobia. Especially after tossing [...]
The play date
“What’s the matter?”
She looked up at me with tears in her eyes. My heart really went out to her; she was clearly in emotional distress…severe emotional distress.
“We just broke up,” she said, pointing at the guy in the other room, “and he brought this girl he’s dating? He knew I’d be here, what’s wrong with [...]
