Shared Experiences
TRUTH about cats & dogs
“It’s a given that all men are dogs. What differentiates each guy is how much dog is in him.” I barely settle into my side of the cab and my college buddy starts barking his version of conventional dating wisdom at me. “I suggest you tap into me to discern the purebreds from the strays [...]
PUPPETS, PIRATES & ICE-CREAM… Oh my!
“So this guy points out all our differences on the date…” Eddie wants a full rundown on my latest-and-greatest dating adventure. I’m trying to convince him that this taking-it-slow mantra is just not working for me. It’s not my style. Right? “Wait, this is your second date?” He’s got his big brother glare up and [...]
the POSSIBILITY of sex
“So you’re really back in the game, huh?” Eddie pushes the last piece of the mulberry tart towards me with his fork. I shrug. We’re both killing some time by grabbing a bite before heading out to a singles’-slash-benefit event in the Mission. I nudge the last bite towards him. Eddie’s got an insatiable sweet [...]
Great wingmanship
I noticed her from across the room. Of course, I always notice her when she’s around. Ever since our somewhat dramatic relationship that never was, I’m somehow always able to find her in a room even without trying. Of course, she looked cute…she always does. Her brown hair frame her beautiful face that was tonight [...]
ABC Dating
Poker is a great game because it is intellectually challenging on many levels – you need timing, luck, skill, and courage. These are the same skills needed for dating. Poker imitates life, so I think we can learn a lot about what to do, and what NOT to do, from poker. One typical weakness I [...]
SINGLE-itis
I’ve come to rely heavily on Depeche Mode’s take on GOD’s bizarre sense of humor — especially when it comes to my dating life. It’s been six months (give or take) since the scolding I got from Karen at the clinic for not practicing better cootie control. I cried abstinence, so I guess GOD decided [...]
Holidating, Part 1: New Year’s Resolution or Cupid’s Coercion?
Have you noticed that holidays have a way of influencing our dating behavior? If so, then you’ve experience the phenomenon I call, holidating. For example, we just rang in a new year and many of us have made resolutions that revolve around dating: date more, screen out psychos, end unfulfilling relationships, get into a serious [...]
Patience or Denial?
After the Sunset I read Sara and Josh’s comments at least five times. “You can’t rush a relationship anymore than you can rush (flowers growing).” True that, my online friend. I’ll admit though, patience is not my strong suit. I don’t have a timetable or agenda, but I also don’t want to waste my time. [...]
Top 10 Posts of 2008
Happy 2009! I just woke up from a wicked New Year’s Eve hangover and figured it was time to take a look back at 2008. And what a year it’s been. Last February 1st, we launched DatingThoughts.com with a handful of talented and single 30-something bloggers in the San Francisco Bay Area. Throughout the year, [...]
If you love someone, let them go
For as long as I can remember, I’ve heard the phrase, “if you love someone, let them go.” I’ve spent inordinate amounts of time during my life trying to understand the meaning. In high school, I thought the concept was ludicrous. I love her, why the hell would I ever let her go? Adolescence, of [...]
